My husband frequently visits internet singles sites and has profiles on a few of these! I have not confronted him about this but at times it bugs the heck out of me. We are newly married. Should I be worried or concerned?
2006-06-17 04:23:22 · 25 answers · asked by sexy_carli_69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a LOSER!!! Apparently he's still shopping around...married or not married...
2006-06-17 04:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by vickififi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to find out what his intentions are without confronting him. Take a look at his profile and find out what he is looking for. Then create your own profile to match his. Obviously you need to use someone else picture. Wait to see if he contacts you. If he is looking for a romantic partner or a sex partner, at that point you need to confront him. You are in a new phase of your relationship. Don't wait until you've been together for a long time before you or he decides it's time for a change.
2006-06-17 04:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by pcnut4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be concerned. A married man who continues to look is not a satisfied married man. In my opinion something is missing for him to continue seeking. I would question him on his motives to continue visiting single sites. Perhaps he doesnt see it as a problem. You may need to make him aware of how you feel about it. But he may also feel that you're 'spying' on him.
Resolve the issue honestly together, before it blows way out of proportion!
2006-06-17 04:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind your husband that you two are MARRIED...he is not single anymore. He gave up the right to be single when you two got married. Let him know how you feel when he is on singles sites. If he makes it seem like what he is doing is perfectly harmless, remind him that the site is for SINGLES. The people on that site are single and he has no reason to be on a site designed for people who are looking for love.
2006-06-17 05:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-17 04:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Do you have the dates of these profiles....maybe you should ask him...I would. I have been married 13 years and I think if someone is already looking maybe their is a reason. Or he may just be curious, but why is he saving them? I would ask. Just my own opinion. Hope this helps.
2006-06-17 04:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by sokrvolleyhoopsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has an addiction, maybe seek a counelsor for this issue, there are many people that cannot seel to stay away from singles sights merely due to the women that post there.
2006-06-17 04:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by William B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most sites require you to make a profile before you can see others. Perhaps he is just seeing who is on there, maybe checking to see if someone he knows is on there. I have done this before and I am married. It is interesting to see who you will find.
2006-06-17 04:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Christopher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES... if he loves you, he wouldn't be interested in communicating with other singles. You need to talk to him about it. Sometimes the "attention" one gets from sites like these is sort of addicting. BUt it means he is not establishing solid relationships with others... eother platonic friendships, or he is emotionally distant from you. Makes me wonder why he is married.
I had to deal with this when I was still single...I dated a few guys who couldn't give up their internet searches... it told me they weren't ready to settle and weren't committed. When I met my husband (and we met online) our pages were turned off the following day. And we've never gone back... If he is bored, he needs a hobby... if he likes the attention, then he needs counseling as to why he would damage his marriage with you over chatting with women he hasn't met and never might.
2006-06-17 04:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no business on singles sights, he's not single. I'd give him an ultimatum. it should bug you all the time? is he thinking that he's waiting for something better to come along or what? how would he feel if you did that? he should not be chatting w/ other women. he should not be doing anything to disrespect you or your marriage, and that is totally disrespectful. i personally would not put up w/ it.
2006-06-17 04:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he active on these sites???? Print the proof.......then confront him. It is totally 100% wrong for him to be doing this. It IS cheating! What would he do if a young lady started chatting with him???? Confront him NOW!!!
2006-06-17 04:26:57 · answer #11 · answered by Halo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋