What to do?? I hada always trust him but...?

Question

I find out in our cellular bill a specific # that was dial from his cell for the past month or so at hours where he is suppost 2 be at either luch or work. I ask him by phone whe i find out not mad or yelling, but he said he didn't know. Then at home he told me that it was a # form a girl that was having an affair w/ his brother.That he had calll her so she can stop looking for his brother cuz he has a family (younger brother). But i have that feeling tha he is not telling the truth, I had always trust him & had never had any problems like this. But know I feel bad & he knows he even cry 2 me telling me that he has nothing 2 do w/ her, like I told why he didn't say anything 2 me if it was a family problem...Now i don't know what 2 do I feel like I don't trust him anymore, I have being betray in the past & I had that same feeling.What 2 do do I trust him? Do you think he is telling the truth?? Any help!!! Thanks...I do Love him & we are expecting a baby!! or 3rd.

Answer 1

He may be telling you the truth. He may have not told you up front because he may have felt it would bother you or hurt you. Some times we do stupid thing trying to protect you, and our good intentions screw things up. You being betrayed in the past could bring up insecurities with this situation. My wife, girlfriend at the time was cheated on by her ex boyfriend, we lived together and I had left my phone book out one night, and she saw another girls name and # on the open page. She confronted me about this and I told her that my brothers number was also on that page and I had called him and I did not know his number. Well she could not believe that I could forget his number but I did. So, don't jump to conclusions unless you can prove otherwise. Good luck!
He may be telling you the truth.

Answer 2

Hate to say this but most likely he is lying to you, based on the number of times he has called her (more then twice, yes?). Just a gut feeling.

Regardless of whether he is lying or not, there is a more important issue here, TRUST.

If he did do something that was outside of your marriage agreement (and for most folks sleeping with someone else is, kissing can be depending on the person, and talking is even against the rules for some folks), then he is hiding it, again breaking the communication and the trust of your marriage.

If he did not do something that broke your agreement, the fact that you feel that he may have and is now lying to you also shows a severe break down in communication and trust.

Regardless of whether he did or not, the fact that you DO have doubts, indicates you guys need to work on your trust and communication with each other. For some folks that means counseling as a couple and for some folks that means a lot of long conversations which are equal parts listening, talking, and just considering what was said from all sides.

Again staying calm and giving the benefit of the doubt will go a long way in this, but don't keep giving your trust to someone who repeatedly breaks it. That's not healthy.

Answer 3

If you love, then trust him. You are going to have 3rd child, think of the trauma they'll have to undergo if they find that their parents don't trust each other and may be separating.
Wish you all the best
PS You could speak and confirm some fact with your bro-in-law, maybe?
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Answer 5

dont call her and tell her anything! it might lead to divorce!
ask somebody(whom your hubby doesn't know) to find out who she is.if u do find out confront him very patiently.he probably is seeing the other woman coz he is gettting something from her which he doesn't get from you.find out what that is and try to give it to him.
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Answer 6

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