How would you cheer yourself up? I'm feeling down, undervalued and very negative what do you suggest?

Answer 1

First eat tons, of sugar and ice cream, then do something stupid, fun and crazy, then go home watch your favorite movie, go to bed and sleep in until noon the next day.

Answer 2

The one thing that has helped me thru this most is writing down what is bothering me every morning as soon as I wake up. It has to be done in longhand, not the computer. I also often write what I call "letters that can never be sent" and burn them up. Then, after I get the bad stuff out of me, I also write every morning what I want, what I want to do, and what I am thankful for. And then I hope for some inner urge or direction. Some new idea.
After I start my day, I try to always do at least some creative work, even if only for half an hour. I also schedule time for social contacts and try to listen to what other people are going thru. It's important to have comforting friends you see regularly.
Taking a little walk every day is real good too. As is swimming, especially in warm water. I did use perscription anti-depressants for years with mixed results. The morning writing, creativity, socializing, and gentle exercising seems to work better though.

Answer 3

It's funny how many times I've tried to trick myself into being happy. There are so many routes to happiness, but I could never really find my niche. It's going to sound stupid, but JUST BE POSITIVE. When I tried to trick myself into doing it, it just didn't work. When I paid attention to it and continually worked on it, I was happier.

Of course, there are other ways that work as well. But the thing is, you have to find something within you that makes you happy, or you will never be truly happy! There has to be some sort of internal core of strength.

Believe in yourself. Write down your abilities and talents. Strive to make yourself a better person (whatever that means to you). It's all within. I work in direct sales. Sometimes it can really get you down. But as Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." You just have to know that life can be good. Use aspirations if you have to. Every morning, say words like "I am a fantastic person. I know what I want from life, and I'm prepared to labor for it." Whatever you need to feel better about.

I really don't get much support from home, so I have to support myself with positive thinking and motivational tapes/cds. Also, keep in mind, you become like the 5 people you're with the most so if you're with energy-sucking, happiness-draining people, you're not going to feel valued, positive, or happy.

Hope this helps. Contact me at [e-mail] if you would like to talk more in depth.

Your new friend,
Sage

P.S. You are amazing! You make a difference in the world. Remember, you never know who might be falling for your smile! Keep your head up.

Answer 4

FIRST, GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO FEEL OUT OF IT. MAKE IT OKAY TO FEEL UNDERVALUED, VERY NEGATIVE AND GLOOMY. WE ALL GO THROUGH IT, BUT WE FORGET THAT IT'S OKAY TO FEEL THIS WAY. SECOND, REALIZE YOU ARE A VALUABLE HUMAN BEING WHO JUST ISN'T FEELING SO HOT RIGHT THIS MINUTE. WHEN I GET A BLAST OF THAT KIND OF ENERGY, I TELL MY BRAIN "NOT WITH ME, YOU DON'T!" AND I GO SIT DOWN AND CHILL. IF YOU ARE JUST HAVING AN OFF-WEEK, THAT'S ONE THING. IF, HOWEVER, THIS MIGHT BE SOMETHING YOUR DOCTOR NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT, JUST TELL HIM. I THINK YOU ALREADY KNOW WHICH OPTION IT IS. SOMETIMES SOMEONE WILL DO SOMETHING SO MEAN OR STUPID OR UNCARING IT CAN MESS UP YOUR COMPASS FOR WEEKS. SO THIRD, RESET YOUR COMPASS. YOU DO THAT BY RELAXING AND CENTERING. I DO IT BY JUST SITTING STILL. MY BRAIN SLOWS DOWN AND I START TO WONDER WHY I EVER DOUBTED MYSELF. WHICH IS NUMBER 4: TRUST YOURSELF. YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON WHO IS HAVING A BAD DAY. NUMBER 5: HAVE A FRIEND WHO ALWAYS MAKES YOU FEEL TERRIFIC? CALL THAT PERSON NOW. NUMBER 6: CLEAN YOUR SURROUNDINGS. LITTLE STUFF. TRASH OUT. DO YOUR LAUNDRY. NO DISHES IN THE SINK KIND OF THING. LITTLE THINGS. A CLEAR PLAYING FIELD MAKES YOUR FEELINGS EASIER TO HANDLE. WHERE DID THIS BAD THING COME FROM? CAN YOU NAIL IT? WHAT WAS IT? KNOWING EXACTLY WHERE IT CAME FROM OR WHAT TRIGGERED YOU WILL MAKE IT MUCH EASIER TO GET FREE FROM.

Answer 5

First of all you should pray. God values everyone no matter what. Asking God to guide you will make a big difference. Next you should count your blessings. Do you have your health, the ability to see and walk and hear etc. and and just enjoy life? I would also recommend writing your feelings down and if you feel bad quite often I would suggest counseling. No one has to go through life feeling bad. There is help out there - through churches, community counseling and if you have health insurance there should be info. on who covers you and where you can go for counseling. Remember when everything else looks bleak and you feel alone God loves you. And other people in the world are good and we care too...........otherwise we wouldn't have responded. Good for you for taking the first step to feeling better - you reached out to others. I will pray for you and hope you feel better already.

Answer 6

Treat yourself to a ice bine (pork leg & mustard) or a nice big rib , where you can mess and eat with your hands or something else you like , at a place where you can sit and look at other people moving by. Guaranteed you will notice others with bigger problems than you , that are still going strong !Smile at people (costs nothing - i will pay for the stiches if you send me the account ) help an old lady across the street, eat a banana and throw the peel on the ground so people freak at you, smile at them and pick the peel up and throw it in the garbage can.
Re-evaluate yourself, perk up, and the sun will shine again.
Try it and tell us !

Answer 7

Accept that you will you through periods like this and that this natural. It happens to everyone
However, you can chose whether to sink into it or to rise above it.

Identify the things you enjoy doing and try to do at least one per day

Set yourself some long term goals and try to make small progress towards them every day

Do things that benefit other people. It could be as simple as clearing out your closet and giving not used items to a charity shop, or cleaning the house for your mum etc

Finally distract yourself with films, books or by answering questions on yahoo like the rest of us

Good luck

Answer 8

Put on some really cheesey tunes and turn the volume right up. Then dance around the front room like an idiot for half hour. This is a proven method as music and exercise release endorphins which make you feel better. Then find a cheesy movie and chuck it on with slobbing out on the sofa with chocolate (which also release endorphins).

Answer 9

Why are you feeling like this?

I was always told to work out what was worrying me. Can you do something about it? If you can, then do it. If you can't, why are you worrying about it?!!!

Of course, you could always read some of the questions in Yahoo! Then you will realise either people are worse off than you, or you can laugh at their replies!!!!


But if you say why you are feeling the way you are, perhaps someone can help. if there is nothing to make you feel this way, could you need to see a doctor for some pills?
Hope you are feeling more yourself soon!

Answer 10

Don't worry about what other people think of you even though you want to. Look at yourself. Do you have many years ahead of you? You have potential. Even if you think you have no skills, you do.
I once had a big party. The next morning, my floor was completely covered with mud mixed with beer (it was a good party). When I mopped it all up and cleaned all traces of the party up, I felt very good.
Maybe you need to do some cleaning? I also mean that metaphorically.

Answer 11

Cry about it. Then talk to God. Then that part is over. Drink , not heavily,watching a nice comedy. Then play only your favourite tunes, the ones that you can dance to. Invite few friends with a great sense of humour and laugh until you hear those pains in your stomach.All these above always help me.Stay well