She is quite mouthy and bossy, she comes from a very disfunctional family, is there any way to teach good family values in 2 weeks I know children live what they learn I'd like some suggestions on how I can help some of her disfunctional ways leaving lights on ,slamming doors, talking to herself, and lack of personal hygene. She is very slow learner and is behind 2 grades at school....
2006-06-17 02:26:09 · 10 answers · asked by shellkate1244 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Has anyone tried to get to the root of this childs problem? I mean it sounds like she has some issues that need help. Maybe in the time you have her you could try and give her more positive attention and ignore the negative when she displays it...I am raising a mentally disabled 12 year old.. and trust me it's not easy with as many issues as she has, but in some cases the child really can't help behaving as they do... You should keep a journal of how she acts at your house, then show it to her mom when they return for her. Maybe there is some way you can be the "adult" in the relationship with your friend and let her know what may or may not be going on with her child. I wish you luck.. and try to have a good time with her.. it seems like maybe that is all she needs... But do not break your household rules to keep her happy... You must report back and let us all know how it went!!!
2006-06-17 02:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by johnson72269 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 21:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by zabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she has to follow the rules of the house. I would not say leaving lights on are disfunctional though. Most kids and many adults leave lights on.
2006-06-17 02:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some ground rules, such as: in our house we bathe daily, no talking back, no door slamming, etc..
I have found that kids lacking discipline thrive on it...She may never want to leave you if you give her boundaries..
Having dated a man with a daughter that you described, it was a fight in the beginning but she loved me for being sturn..gained a lot of respect!! Her parents will be envious.....And, by the way, GOOD LUCK....keep your cool
2006-06-17 03:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by napanative 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh! It's gonna be hard. I've been a foster parent and when these children come to us the only thing we can do is love them, be an example for them, and guide them. Most important is that you make sure she understands the rules of your home. Good luck and I pray you're blessed.
2006-06-17 04:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 years vs 2 weeks...seem obvious....you lose...you can be an example but lets face it your odds of making a signifacant change in anyones behavior in two weeks are slim and none.
2006-06-17 02:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lead by example, and when she does something inappropriate, just tell her that it's not acceptable in your home. I won't guarantee this will work, but it's probably the best you can do. Good luck.
2006-06-17 02:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be her friend alot of communication will help. she is really confused girl.help all you can through different issuse and problems in her life .she needs a good friend.
2006-06-17 03:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Alma B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach her slowly
2006-06-17 21:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ekkkkk just show her normal behavior and hopefully she will pick up on it
2006-06-17 02:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by kelseykiddo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋