After 12 years of marriage, i love my husband in my mind, but my heart tells me otherwise. I feel as though everytime i look at him i find another reason i should not be wih him anymore. He doesn't abuse me and i don't think he cheats on me, but you never know these days. But, it seems that my heart breaks more and more each day that i am with him. Please, can someone tell me what should i do?
2006-06-17 02:24:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
great day...i thought i was the only one. my thing is i dont feel up to adding another 'CHAPTER' to my life and another relationship is another chapter; so i deal. its hard especially having sex but i do it for him. we have a home, kids ,grandkids,etc... i just cant walk away from that. find something you both enjoy doing and do it together. good luck and God bless you.
2006-06-17 02:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by babyblues 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there has to be a reason. You just don't wake up one day and fall out of love. Is there someone else? I know from experience. The grass isn't greener. I threw away 25 years for something new. work it out if you can . Especially if you have kids. I always felt like i could do better. I felt I was missing something. One night while I was sitting alone . I realized I wasn't missing anything. Try to put the spark back in your marriage if you can. Try to do things , Talk about how you feel. You may be surprised.
2006-06-17 02:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 21:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages do not last a lifetime anymore. This is why divorces are on the rise.
If you do not love him, you do not love him.
If you have tried to restart the fire or talked about the situation with him, you should get out.
Something must have triggered this for you. Did he say something or forget something important?
Make sure you are sure before you leave. You do not want to look back and say "What If..."
Good Luck
2006-06-17 02:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get counseling.12 years is a lot to though away. The grass is not always greener.
2006-06-17 02:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be with someone that u do not love or have feels for nomore just left him and tell him how u feel about him
2006-06-17 02:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Don't waste your life or his.
2006-06-17 02:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Wile E. Chipotle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-06-17 03:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION.OPEN THE DOOR YOU BEEN THERE 12YEARS AND NOW READY TO THROW IN TOWEL WHY??????????????????
2006-06-17 07:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋