2006-06-17 01:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by oceantwins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anything that you would not do in front of your partner is cheating.
I suspect that most wives put up with it. They kick up a fuss the first time but react less and less with every subsequent offense until they're on anti-depressants or straying themselves.
Don't think that it is you. Bad men happen to good women 99% of the time.
Identify the things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one a day. get some friends. get involved with in life. set yourself some goals, action them and try to stop yourself obsessing about what he is doing or thinking.
Putting up does not make you a failure, it may mean you are shrewd. But if you know you can not accept it. Get out before he destroys you - that may be the only thing that jolts him to change
2006-06-17 03:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by del-d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how 'attached' they become. If it's just chatting, about nothing in particular, it isn't cheating. The problem is they can easily become emotionally attached without even realizing it's happening. Whether it starts that way or not, it isn't safe or healthy for the marriage - not much different than going to a bar regularly and hanging out with the same woman. Eventually, it will cause a problem. If it was me, I'd point that out, ask for it to stop, and see to it that the marriage is top priority. I've known simple 'chatting' cases that have ended marriages. Be careful.
2006-06-17 08:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the subject of the chat.
As a married woman, I am very protective of my husband. If my hubby were chatting with a woman I'd be curious about the conversation, especially if they talk for long periods of time and if they talk daily or a few times a week or whatever.
I would suggest you talk to your hubby and find out the situation without accusing him... I think it's good that you're cautious about this. But, dont read anything into it... try finding out the truth before turning a mole hill into a mountain.
2006-06-17 08:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by MissLtoeNBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing to be cautious of is if you are getting something from this chat experience that should be gotten from your spouse. It is easy to fall into an emotional attachment with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Be attentive to your feelings during your chat...do you feel soothed, relaxed-as though you've known this person for years, desiring to touch, or wishing you were able to spend a day or more with this person, do you look forward to your next meeting with this person? All of these and more are warning signs. Pretend that your spouse is there with you, listening. Would they feel threatened by your conversation? If so, you'd better cut it short. :)
2006-06-17 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell to your husband all the things that you do in chatting and always update him on things that youve got from other people just share to him everything, cause we are taught by God to love our husband like we love our selves. We need to let them see that we are honest, cause this is the important part of everlasting relationship
2006-06-17 08:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by rayfake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is just thinking of someone else is cheating on your parter when it should only be your parter you think about when you chat to other you dont tell them you married kids bout wife you act single and if you love your parter you would not want to hurt them like that would only think of them and no other so yes you are cheating
2006-06-17 18:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner always say you have to appreciate someones beauty and if you think they are sexy. That does not mean taking it further. Chatting someone up, to me, is cheating regardless of who is doing it. If my partner chats someone up I would definitely ask her what's up. She is with me for a reason. If she wants someone that's me it's her choice, but keeping me on a leach is not on.
2006-06-17 09:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Levi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was your wife and found you chatting up another woman, I'd kick your *** so hard your mother would feel it.
2006-06-19 10:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what they are chatting about. my bf starts chatting and swears they are only friends but soon the conversation turns to hooking up then i have to put my foot down right on him
2006-06-17 08:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by mary h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am a wife and my hubby does chat up and flirt with others but he gives me that same attention ...... so im not really bothered cus i flirt to but if he did that and didnt do it to me then id feel bad i suppose.... erm i dont no wot i would do to be honest its not the wench's fault that hes chattin up so i would go up and say are you ready darlin we gotta pick the kids up
2006-06-17 09:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by cujo2368 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋