Ive selfish people who take me for granted,parents & love who arent bothered about me,they see about their life.Im to get married they dont care they suggest eloping.A family friends son turned best friend turned love of my life who i know from 5yrs who hasnt proposed marriage.Everyone from parents to friends to my love expect me to be there for them,help them financially & advicer they are not there for me in my time of need.Im being honest.Ive best friends online.What do i do to make them realise they are taking me for granted?Ive job to move to another country for good away from family & love but ill miss them.
2006-06-17 01:23:30 · 10 answers · asked by unleashedemotions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was in the same situation for a long time. I was living in a small town and I had a huge family and everyone saw me that way. So I packed up, moved to the second biggest city in the state,which is two and a half hours away from home. I had a bad realationship, then I met my husband,gotmarried and started college and told my family where to stick it. It feels really good to do that. I know your situation so if you need a girl to talk too my yahoo id is danishroyalprincess on yahoo im.
2006-06-17 01:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you have to be straight forward with all parties involved and if you feel a certain way about anything you must let it be known or you will drive your self craz-E. Second take the job, you will give yourself time to heal from the drama in your life and yes you will miss them for a while, but you will get over it and then you will find it easier to get yourself together. When you return for a visit you will know how to deal with the things that ran you away in the first place. You should never let someone else (family/friends) dictate how you feel or what you do. Give yourself some time away and gather yourself so you won't began to feel overwhelmed and not like any of them.
2006-06-17 02:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by melekahue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you have spent all your energy making everyone else feel happy and thats the only side everyone sees. Move if YOU want to but don't do it for revenge. Meanwhile try taking a class in something even if it's only learning how to knit. Do something for yourself. You may have less money to give away but you will know your own value. Don't assume this BF is the love of your life. When you invest in yourself you will notice that others pay more attention and next time it might be a real prince charming.
2006-06-17 01:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Laura B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else and make a family of your own. Maybe it's time to move on and go out into the realy world. You might be taken for granted but, they probably still love you. You could still ask for help from them.Show them what they are doing to you.
2006-06-17 01:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats very bad especially since it sounds like you made alot of sacrifices for ur family and love.Forget them for awhile few months will be fine.If they come to u then they love u if they dont they never loved u.To keep their ego intact they might just pass message through someone or do show through actions accept it and go back to them.Tomorrow when u have true love u will have a family of ur own.God bless u.
2006-06-17 01:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how difficult this is for you, as my husbands family uses him for what they need all the time. We moved away from them a year ago and they STILL want him to do things for them.
I dont understand why or how family can do that to you, it's just not right.
I dont know what you can do other than tell them how you feel and tell them you're not doing things for them anymore. They may not think they're taking advantage of you but you've got to tell them.
And if it means moving away from them to realize what they're doing... so be it. I wish you the best of luck. You're in my prayers.
2006-06-17 01:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by MissLtoeNBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell them exactly what they are doing to you. Sometimes people just don't know. Don't beat around the bush. Give them real true examples of what they are doing and tell them why its wrong. Sometimes when you are strong and resourceful people think you don't need help and take you for granted.
2006-06-17 01:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave! i have a friend who's experiencing the same thing. what you both should do is to pack your things up and go on your own. you don't need them. you can live on your own and prove to them that you're better of without them.
2006-06-17 02:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You teach people how to treat you! Simple, but very true.
They can be retarined, but only by you.
2006-06-17 02:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by Nick R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm taken for granted
2006-06-17 01:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋