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Question

me and my wife have been sperated for 6 months and i want her back in my life more than anything and i want to woo her and win her heart back.
recently i spoke to her saying that neither one of us really wanted a divorce and she never answered me.
firstly does her not answering mean anything and secondly please tell me ways i can win heart again

she does not have anyone else i'm sure.
i wrongly accused her of cheating because i'm a stupid man no more no less but she is so precious to me and that lead me to counselling. she told me from the begginning she wanted a divorce but has not done anything about it.
she has always been treated bad by men been abused in the past. i want to treat her the way that all women should be treated with love respect and trust. i dont care about sex i just care about getting back in my life

Answer 1

try working on having a friendship first that way you could spend some quality time together and she won't feel pressured to make a decision because if you do keep pushing her with 'i want to get back together' she may end up making the decision you don't want.if you start spending time together as friend she may remember the reasons she fell in love with you in the first place.
think back to all the things you did together in the beginning. and even if you don't get back to gether she would still be an important part of your life.

but be careful not to get your hopes up too much, she may feel differently from you. not answering your question could be a sign of not being sure herself, not knowing how to tell you she did want a divorce or that she doesn't really want one either.

i would tell her about all the things you have done and are trying to do to be the person she deserves.

talk to her suggest friendship and take it from there.

good luck

Answer 2

Why did she leave you in the first place (or if you left her why...) If there is abuse of any form--verbal or physical--the relationship is better off ended until someone gets real counseling. If someone had an affair, trust is gone and that can be tough to overcome.

Her silence when you said neither want a divorce suggests to me that she is finished and if you keep pushing it, she can go after you with a restraining order, so you may just need to realize that the relationship is over.

Answer 3

At least she didn't say a flat no. Not being nosy but were you at fault re the seperation? If so, her silence may mean that she's struggling to trust you again.
The only thing you can do is wait patiently. Maybe you can have the odd date together. Sort of go back to the beginning when it was frsh and new and exciting. I hope this gets sorted out - you really sound as if you genuinely want to make it work.

Answer 4

First of all, apologize sincerely for ur mistake ( accusing her of cheating)..Secondly, it may take time before you can win her trust back, so be very patient and show her you've turned over a new leaf. Then, whatevr things you did in the past to win her love and affection, do it now and much more..Her not answering may mean she still cares.Just pray for God's guidance and wisdom on what u should do...God bless u! =)

Answer 5

It really depends on the circumstances of the separation. Was there abuse or neglect? Who left whom? What were the reason(s) for the separation? (not asking to know--just to get you to think).

You cant force someone into something they dont want to do.
You can keep trying (WITHOUT pushing) to talk to her and resolve any issues, but there are no guarantees.
Also, just because she didnt answer you doesnt mean that's her 'answer'. Maybe there are some issues/feelings she's got to sort thru and needs time to do so.
But I wouldnt give up hope just yet.

Answer 6

Be honest with her. Tell her exactly what you describe here and pledge to be committed to the marriage. If you are lucky and she still loves you, she will forgive you and come back. If not, be realistic and accept a permanent split and move on. All the best.

Answer 7

tell her the way you feel and tell her you were stupid to accuse her of cheating but tell her you no better now and your sorry tell her you want to give your marriage another goand see what happens if she loves you still also i say she will give it another go i would say she is just hurt that you didnt trust her the first time and she is probly scared incase you do the same to her again i would say thats why she never answered you but i would say she is definitly thinking about it

Answer 8

well if you want her back in your life you have to show her that your for real , and hopefully when you do you have to keep in mind that you walking on thin ice , yeah every woman likes to be treated like that but every woman has their additional thing , but you need to sit down with her talk to her don't hold back spill everything out to her . Good Luck !!!

Answer 9

If she didn't answer it sounds like she is not wanting to tell you something. She may want a divorce. Try to talk to her more and find out for sure.

Answer 10

i think may be she is having new boyfriend.Because 6 months is long enought to see new guy. But why you seperated with her? she wants or you want.To get her back you should think and understand her a lot! Give her time to concider. You have to work hard and harder to take her back.