Is monogamy possible?

Question

Can men and women be faithful for a lifetime in a commited relationship?

Answer 1

I know several cases were people were married for 60/70 years and their spouse passed on and they never cheated. If you love your spouse and respect the sanctity of marriage then it's very possible. My husband was in Iraq and I had MANY chances to cheat. (the female to male ratio in this town is about 250:1 so even if you're 200lbs overweight, if you have boobs, you can get some). Anyway, I love my husband and I refuse to risk what we share for a night or two with some jerk who doesn't care about anything. I love my husband and I stayed faithful. I'll continue doing so now that he's home and for the rest of our lives. I have no doubt in my mind he will do the same.

Answer 2

I think this is very possible, but unlikely and not necessarily the way things should be. In my opinion, humans simply weren't cut out to be monogamous, and especially here in the U.S. most people practice serial monogamy rather than the more traditional til death do us part bit. There's also no denying that rampant cheating is going on, and if you're more of a pessimist like me...that fact casts a lot of doubt on most people's desire to spend the rest of their lives with a sole partner. It's more about expectations and beliefs...if you don't expect your partner to be pure perfection and everything you ever needed in life you'll be less disappointed and more likely to remain committed to your relationship. If you believe in true monogamy and that cheating is wrong, naturally you'll be more inclined to stick around and make things work rather than running off at the first sign of trouble. If your partners feels the same way, then yep you may be in it for the long haul. Ultimately, if a relationship benefits both parties involved and both people want to remain in it, then it can work. If either party isn't satisfied, and/or they give into temptations to stray or leave, or the couple simply finds they aren't as compatible as they first thought, then the relationship could end.

So what are the odds of a faithful lifetime relationship? Increasingly slim in this day and age but not impossible...

Answer 3

Yes, I know many couples who have been monogomous in their marriage. I am in my second marriage, 15 years now, and am quite pleased with my relationship and don't entertain thoughts of seeking a girlfriend elsewhere. Yes it's possible and out there, and I hope you are fortunate enough to experience it.

Answer 4

Of course, it's possible. It depends on your level of commitment. If you're 100% committed, you can do it. I know, because I have been married for 25 years and I've done it.

Answer 5

Yep. I've been monogamous for 20 years. I don't find it particularly hard. The grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side, and we really enjoy having a sense of history - the "remember when..." conversations..

Audrey
www.animalhomebusiness.com

Answer 6

Yes, it is very possible if you have any values and morals. I have never cheated on any of the guys that i have dated. I was always the one that got cheated on. It hurt alot...why would i want to go and hurt someone like that if i know how it feels.

Answer 7

Nope, maybe back before the 1960's. But not in todays world.

Answer 8

Ofcourse, as long as the two people are strong enough to withstand all the outside influences.

Answer 9

If you have self-respect and respect for your spouse, then of course.
You have to WANT to be monogamous and if you don't then you won't be.
We have free will, it's not like anyone is being forced to cheat!

Answer 10

If you have high moral standards and the will power to resist temptation, yes. If you do not, then no.