Dear friends, What do you think about Men who'd like to ALWAYS i mean ALWAYSSSSS test a woman's love for him?I am 25 and i'm a Victim of mental abuse.I am having a very strained r/ship with my bf who is 41yrs old coz recently, he impliedly made me to cut and hurt myself and cry to death, just to test my love. It all began when i finished work, my handphone ran out of battery and when i reached home, i made sure i call him the 1st thing.Whn i called, he got so furious asking me "who did you go out with and who did you FU**, which men is it?" many times i had warned him not to link me with another men, but he doesnt get the message.I have never done anything behind him but he seems to doubt me.Once i cut and hurt myself, he'd come back to me and say he was sorry and ask me to forgive him.2 years i've been in this r/ship, just imagine how much of cuts and cruises i had to prove to take to show him tht i loved him.Now we're okay but i dont know when the next blast wud occur.Opinion pls.
2006-06-16 21:26:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anisha81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys if, u turly love a girl, wud u test her to this extent?When i reason out with my bf tht i seriously love him and i dont have another men, he says i'm lying and he makes me go insane by inputing negative things abt me in my mind. Once he even asked me if i acctually drank my mom's milk or satan's milk when i was a child! I can't go out or do anything without reporting to him. What kind of r/ship is this?I've gone for counselling but i dont know why am i so emotionally dependant on him. I mean when i dont hear from him, i feel scared and down. WHen i hear from him i get scared whe wud be the next blow. What shud i do and i thank those who had been so kind to answer this victim...thanks
2006-06-16 21:30:14 · update #1
He has absued you mentally, reduced your self esteem, made you believe that you love him so much that you have to hurt yourself physically for him to believe that he has succeeded. My opnion is that you are too good for him because you are still hanging on. If you try hard enough, i believe that slowly you would get over him and recover back to your original self. All I could do is wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-16 23:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by asiabunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple. You need to get out of that realationship immediately. You're obviously intelligent enough to realize that the way he treats you is wrong. Now take the logical step and leave him. He sounds like an *** who makes himself feel good about himself by berating you. He needs psychological help, and frankly, you should seek professional therapy as well. Most likely, you come from an abusive family (your dad beat your mom or you) and you see your dad in this loser. It makes you feel secure and protected, but it's going to get worse.. much worse. This web site is not the place you are going to get help. You need someone in the real world to speak with. Not a friend or relative and most certainly NOT this jackass. Don't think. Don't wait. Get everything that belongs to you and GET OUT now.
Are you still there?
What are you waiting for?
If you don't leave NOW you deserve what you get.
And.. it WILL get worse.
I hope you get out now... and get some help...
Good Luck...
2006-06-17 04:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by ptm8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys is psychotic.
He has control issues and is angry.
He needs help and you need to get away from him asap.
Take care to make sure if/when you leave, he cant follow you and hurt you.
Do you have any friends or family in law enforcement?
You will not be able to just leave him until he has a credible threat to himself should he try to hurt you.
2006-06-17 04:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go out of that relationship.....that's work of an evil... a woman must be loved and cared of......that's abuse honey....don't make yourself a fool on loving such man......don't be mislead that love is sacrifice....in that sense it become stupidity.....there's a lot of guys around... just pray hard and ask for it....answer will come at the right time and at the right place. God bless.
2006-06-17 05:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Romel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um hello????? the world is a wonderful place with plenty of happy and SANE men in it. i suggest you cut your lossed (not yourself) and get the hell out of there before you do something horrible to yourself or he does something to yu. trust me honey there is a better life out there for you p.s. do you have family??? this guy is psycho and you are crazy to stay with him, also he who accuses one of cheating, almost always has a reason, maybe he is
2006-06-17 04:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that r/ship before he drives you crazy
2006-06-17 04:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by dank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relationship is going to destroy you mentally or physcally, he's already proved he can abuse your mind and made you cut yourself, wat if nxt time he beats you up, you need to find the strength to leave him because if he has all the power you'll never escape.#you already know he is bad for you by asking this qeustion now take the next step.
2006-06-17 04:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by thebluehaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, r u disturbed or is he? whho in the world except a mentally disturbed person would say sick stuff like that. you need to leave him or put him in check real fast
2006-06-17 04:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who ever loves a girl deeply,,, closely blindly,, that person never do such thingss,,,
2006-06-17 04:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by venkat v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wht opinion, Anisha
i can only say im sorry for u
2006-06-17 04:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by ankur_ak2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋