if he yells at you for something, and you remind him he does/did it too, why am I the only one still at fault? the other answer I get is "whatever!"
2006-06-16 20:30:35 · 12 answers · asked by Lynne M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he needs some help in growing up. Next time he brings it up, just agree with him and tell him you'll try harder to fix the issue. It'll take the wind from his sails and he'll not have anything to keep yelling about. If you know its a bad choice or silly thing to be fighting over, correct it. Not to please him, but to improve yourself as a person and wife. Or tell him I know I do it too. I think we should both work to improve the problem, then walk off. The biggest thing is that if you don't yell back, it'll mess him up and hopefully make him rethink what he is doing.
2006-06-16 20:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your hubby is afraid to admit he is wrong. just tell yourself in your thoughts"hey i know i am right" and move on. get a sly grin or laugh to yourself about it .if he is a good man generally then just take the bad with the good. don't feel bad alot of men are the same way. just get your own personal satisfaction in knowing that he knows he was wrong and you were right
2006-06-17 03:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause we men can be doorknobs sometimes and hate to be wrong, we hate it even more when you remind us and we know you're right, but we still try to save some face - and end up becoming bigger asses for it.
Aloha!!
2006-06-17 03:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because thats not what you are actually arguing about. if my BF yells at me for not locking both locks on the door when i come in at night, hes not pissed about the locks. hes pissed i was out at night without him. if hes yelling at you, say, about leaving wet towels on the floor say "what is this really about? you think im inconsiderate? you think that im not paying enough attention to the house? what?" have him tell you.
2006-06-17 03:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by janushyde01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats called MANipulation hon...ive been married for over a decade and yes..ive done it myself..its mostly because he thinks he is smarter and when proven wrong..defense kicks in and he doesnt like that losing feeling..he will grow if he loves you..be patient :)
2006-06-17 03:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by jstr12001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t know m y hubby f\do the samething so when you fined out tell me
2006-06-17 03:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a man can't stand a woman to be right. It's belittling to them to be wrong. A true man can handle it a COWARD CAN'T.
2006-06-17 03:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
control
get book Boundaries in marriage and read it and use the tools it gives you
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-17 07:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he didnt want to be wrong...so he blames it on you! Guys and women can just be that way sometimes!
2006-06-17 03:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcoz men barely accept their faults.. it's like they're gonna lose their machismo if they admit they're @ fault
2006-06-17 05:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋