I thought he was my soulmate. We were happy, I thought. He was doing sound on weekends in bars, I let him cause he needed GUY time. I was at home with kids. Now he is in another state and I am here alone. I can not seem to get my life started again and everyone I meet I can find something wrong with them. I am scared I will never have that love or passion again. I miss that what do I do?
2006-06-16 19:16:35 · 8 answers · asked by soulmate_n_nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he cheated on me with a woman in the bar. I find something wrong with everyone because I think I am just not ready to have anyone again. NOT THAT I AM PERFECT! I don't want to go out, I don't want to put myself out there I dont think. I have tried to but I am just scared. My friends and family have tried to get me out and things, I don't even want to be with them. HELP!
2006-06-16 19:32:46 · update #1
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
2006-06-16 19:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you've completely dealt with the loss yet. Having someone you believe to be your soul mate cheat on you must be devastating!! The ultimate betrayal... which explains why you're "looking" for faults in every guy you meet... whether you realize you're doing it or not. But its okay, you need to take time to get over this and when you have, and you're good and ready (not when your friends and family believe you are) then you will be able to put yourself back out there.
Take some time for yourself, make you happy again and things will get better!!!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-16 20:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say everyone you meet you find something wrong with them??
So are you saying you are just the perfect human being?? Come back to reality!! Everyone has "flaws". That fact that you think you have no flaws and are better than anyone else makes me sick. If that is really a pic of you, I am not surprised no one wants you, you look hideous. Both on the inside and the OUTSIDE!!!
2006-06-16 19:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, give yourself time to grieve..Divorce is traumatic! Learn to love yourself.Get counseling if you feel you need it.Let go of the past;concentrate on your future.Get to know yourself.Dont rush finding a new relationship too soon; give yourself time to heal.A good support system helps, they are available in your community and church.Love often comes sweeter the second time around; love comes when the timing is right.
2006-06-16 19:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too in a hurry to find love again. If you are fated to find one you will no matter how you try to avoid it. So just enjoy your life now and love will come to you. Say a prayer and visualise you being with someone nice and it will happen.
2006-06-16 22:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be in such a rush for something to happen.it is said that no one can make you happy,until you are happy with yourself.take the alone time you have,to find yourself.i did it. and after 2 failed marraiges, i don't think i want to live with anyone again. i love my freedom, and i like myself.
2006-06-17 01:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by shookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look my mom went through that but shes still going out and livin her life fine trust me you'll find that again i believe everyone is meant to be w/ someone else the choose not to. i need to talk to u.......
2006-06-16 19:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by mybaby_des 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
new shoes ....new dress...new do...........make your self feel great about yourself.....the rest will take care of its self.
2006-06-16 20:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋