i'm a neophyte in a certain fraternity and i will be an official member once i undergo the final initation. (it don't have any paddling or anything else that has to do with physical contact or whatever...) the people who recuited me are now bugging me to have the final initation with other neos as soon as possible... i really wanted to join... but i'm not ready yet. i wanted them to give me more time but they're like being persistent.
2006-06-16 18:37:54 · 7 answers · asked by DruNkStripPeR 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Just be honest and tell him, don't beat around the bush or wait till its too late. If he cares or loves you, he will respect what you have to say.
2006-06-16 18:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by king_shafto 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not ready to join then obviously you are having second thoughts. Sit down and ask yourself why you don't want to join and then think why you do. Compare the answers. Also, if they're pressuring you to join then they're not considering your feelings and may not be good frat brothers.
2006-06-17 01:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by corianne2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I agree - just tell them you need some more time. Make sure they know that you're being faithful to their group - not like you're considering others - but that you just need more time. Good Luck!
2006-06-17 01:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Heather K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever be forced to do something they don't want to do. If you don't feel up to it, tell someone and they will surely understand what you are going through.
2006-06-17 02:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Melbourne Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them. If they dont listen, hit them with a hot iron rod. That will cool them off.
2006-06-17 01:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by gaurav_231288 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Succumb, and join the rest of the herd. MOO!!!
2006-06-17 01:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by televisionmademewhatiam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say, i'm not ready.
2006-06-17 01:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by fooz1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋