I feel insulted by what my boy friend has said. Shouldn't I be?

Question

I dance very well. Enough to have had hundreds of people compliment me on the way I dance and be absolutely amazed by my talent. My boyfriend comes along and says that I should tone down my moves because only 75% of what I do looks good. He says that his friends call me the dancing queen and that it is not meant as a compliment. I think that if you are at a dance club, you need to loosen up and if you won't dance yourself, then loosen up when it comes to the self expression and talent of others. I thought that they sounded like haters. I feel that my boyfriend should be complimneting me most of all about the things I do well. Not trying to bring my ego down a few notches.

I guess I should elaborate on the fact that many people are amazed on how well I dance because they tell me so. Not that I need thy'er approval, but it just confirms the fact that I do very well on the dance floor. I have danced for years. I don't need a reality check folks.

Answer 1

Maybe they are complimenting you because you aren't wearing any panties when doing the splits.

Answer 2

Maybe if you can you should go to dance class and let you dance teacher analyze your moves, with out letting the teacher know before hand that you can dance. I am a good dancer too, but when I was taking dancing classes my teacher always corrected me in something. I love to dance and I do lose up with the music, but I know that you have to listen to the rhythm and follow it bit by bit other wise you could be dancing off line, too fast or too slow or whatever. Once you have done it, pay attention to your boy friend is this the only thing he reproaches you with? If not observe him, maybe he is not the right one for you, a man in love no matter what always will compliment you and never reproach. He would talk to you in a nice way in any cases. Good luck and try some professional advice.

Answer 3

Honey, I agree with you, your boyfriend should be by your side...If he's going to be on the sidelines (and not on the floor with you)with his boys making fun of you (I have no idea how long you've been together) then he should not be a part of your life. Friends, above all, are supposed to be supportive. I don't dance in public because I know i look like Elaine from Seinfeld, and as funny as it is..................It's not flattering.
Also take into consideration that there are a LOT of people out there who don't want to hurt your feelings, maybe he is being honest...Ask your best friend for the god honest truth to know for sure.
My friend auditioned for the choir when we were in school, after I politely told her she sucked, and was broken hearted when our teacher told her the same thing and didn't make the cut.
And anyways, WHO FREAKIN' CARES what shallow people think, if you're having a good time, some other guy is going to notice your skill, or at least enthusiasm and not focus on what his boys are doin.

Answer 4

He's your BOYFRIEND! He wants whats best for you and he doesn't want you the butt of jokes, so he thought he would do something extremely painful and tell a truth to the woman he loves. There is no win/win in this situation for him. He can only lose, either by insulting her by not thinking she's not "that" talented and insulted again because he didn't stop others from saying it. So what he did was hard for him I bet. But sadly, some ppl you can talk to all day and they never hear a word you say. . .

Oh, and I ALWAYS compliment the REALLY BAD dancers, anything to keep them out there for a good laugh while your kicked back watching the free freak show.

Answer 5

You do need a reality check mate. You're ego is also dangerously overinflamed. Perhaps you do look a bit of a **** on the dancefloor and they are having a giggle about it, I know I would. You are so confident that you're good because of what strangers have told you as opposed to what the love of your life has told you, he's just being honest and your just getting the hump because you don't like what he said.

Grow up, get a life and a major reality check you (dancing)loser

Answer 6

bummer. What's the truth? Maybe just video tape yourself and see what you look like. If there ARE some moves that can be toned down, I'm sure that you can adapt some smoother ones. Don't look for that guy's approval though. Find someone else to dance with, babydoll. If he can't keep his eyes off of you, too bad. Tell him to watch someone else that's worse.

Answer 7

If you don't need a reality check why are you here posting this long drawn out question. Okay. I get it. you can dance. Cause countless people told you this. Don't be offended. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Let your Bf have his. Not the end of the world. you don't need a reality check from folks remember?

Answer 8

You got every right to feel insulted at his behaviour.
1. hav u had professional training in dance ??
2. If he is a pro, maybe u should lend an ear.
But if not then maybe he gave u comments on ur dance cuz he is intimidated, feelin not worthy of you, or OR jealous of guys appreciating ur body moves.....think bout it...but dont let it upset u....u got nobody to suck up to....
MY PHILOSOPHY - If i enjoy doing what i do, and no one else is offended by it, i m gonna continue doing it.

Answer 9

Have you tried dancing with your boyfriend in private so can learn new moves and at the same time give him the opportunity to understand you better and to understand what dancing means to you?

Answer 10

If you've been complimented by people and you know you dance well, I think he's probably jealous. He's probably jealous at the attention you get from other people, most likely guys.

Answer 11

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