ok after i got off last night i went into labor even tho i was 7 months. i didnt get to see the baby for almost 5 hrs then i couldnt even hold her she has to stay till august 8 but the reason she was born early was frm the anorexia they said so should i be blaming myself for something i couldn't control in my mind? my babys name is Kylee Ann Oaks she was born at 9:30 in the morning June 16 2006 but another question do u think she will survive?
2006-06-16 17:59:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
im 16 by the way
2006-06-16 18:06:18 · update #1
im still at the hospital im on my lap top my bf brought to me this morning after the birth
2006-06-16 18:11:59 · update #2
she should be just fine! you need to do just what the Dr says. follow the instructions closely. You can't change the past and dwelling on it will only stress you out. Just work on the future and get the two of you healthy. Get your mind and body healthy for her when she gets home she is going to need you. Congratulations on the new baby.
2006-06-16 18:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by chamilton92071 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fortunately, her chances of survival today, compared to 10 years ago are phenomenally better. the technology they use to ensure your baby will stay alive is state of the art. the sad thing is, they are probably blaming you because there is no one else to blame. you are a mother, and you should do everything in your power to keep your baby alive, even if it means your death. a little morning sickness and the feeling your gorging youself is a small price to pay for your babys health.
but you live and you learn right? and not everybody will think that way about you. do you plan on getting pregnant again before you can get your anerexia under control?
maybe your doctor isnt trying to make you feel bad. but unfortunatly, early labor doesnt just happen by accident or for no reason. your doctor was only giving you the most plausable answer he could think of.
but congradulations! everything will probably be OK.
2006-06-17 01:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by ASLotaku 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't she survive?? She's here in this world isn't she?
I have 2 kids & had several complications throughout my pregnancies due to preeclampsia & toximia. I don't know if you are even familiar with any of that, but we all could have died. As far as my body is concerned I shouldn't have even had kids. I just had (& still do) a really strong belief in God & the doctors & nurses that everything would be alright. I can totally understand why you are worried, but only place blame on yourself if you choose to give up on your future & hers. Remember, she's here in this world for a reason & she needs you to be strong for the both of you. Obviously you love her. Seems to me that maybe this is a sign that "someone" wants you to love yourself more. You are being given what I think of as a "Life Lesson" or "A Slap in the Face." I know because I have been there one too many times. Seek the help you need to fight your anorexia. If you don't try to help yourself, how will you help Kylee when she faces challenges in life? I am assuming that you are tired of all the critism that people have or are giving you about not seeking help for your anorexia. Several people in this world do not realize that it is a serious disease & one that it is very difficult to overcome. It's difficult. Not impossible. Your incentive to help yourself is a sweet baby girl who already loves & accepts her mommy unconditionally. You care a great deal about Kylee-she's a part of YOU!! Take care of yourself. Have faith in yourself & the doctors & nurses. God has shined his love upon you with Kylee. Show him that you are worthy of that love & I'm sure everything will work out fine. Take care!
2006-06-17 08:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off dont blame yourself. i know.
My first child was born at 36 weeks with a drooping lip. why because i chose to have stadol for birthing pain and he reacted. I blamed myself. He was like that for 4 months.
my Second child. Is an absoulte miracle. At 20 weeks an older gentleman missed a red light. 23 weeks she tried desperatley to be born because my 6 cm hematomia burst by my cyst. from then on it was nothing but stop labor every two weeks or so. at 35 weeks they couldnt stop it. she was born with breathing problems and gasped terribly. i blamed me.
my third and last . pretty much the same touch and go labors without the car accident and thankfully no hematomia. but he made it to 36 weeks.
so. what i am saying is babies have an amazing will power and just believe and love the baby and dont blame yourself it doesnt help either of you. Just eat for yourself and love every moment. Hang in there.
2006-06-17 01:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The team of nurses and Dr's will take gd care of ur baby and I am sure she will be fine. But if you knew you had anorexia you should have gotten help..you could have hurt your baby worse than delivering early. You are to blame if you didn't get help when you knew you needed it. You're 16, young maybe but not a child. You are responsible for another life now you need to be aware of all your decisions now..they no longer only affect you.
2006-06-17 02:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blaming yourself wont help you child a lot now. what you need to do is get better so that 1 they wont take the baby away, which they very well might do if they judge you to be unstable, and 2 you need to be healthy, both physically and mentally to take care of a child. use the time while your baby is in the hospital to get help. i hope the baby will survive. usually they can save babies that are 7 months, but if there were further complications because of your anorexia it might be harder. just a question, were you anorexic before you got pregnant?
2006-06-17 01:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ganesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 28 week baby will be okay. Just stay in the hospital til she's healthy.
Your newborn baby, I would rate the full name 9/10. I never heard Oaks as a last name.
2006-06-17 01:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Malcolm uses Xbox 360 Avatar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God willing, she will, and i will pray that she does! its not an easy journey being born so early, but anything is possible! try not to blame yourself, try to spend as much time with kylee as possible, let her feel that someone is near that lovers her and is fighting for her if she senses that, she will fight! not that you should be renting movies, or on the internet at this time, but if all is well, you may want to see this movie called Little Man. it was soo touching, it gives you a lil hope in such things that seem impossible, its about a baby that was born really early, i think he was about 1 pound. i hope things work out for you!
2006-06-17 01:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by girrlntrouble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost, were you unable to eat due to severe morning sickness? if so, that isnt your fault. another thing you should never ever put your child's full name on here. There are too many perverts that may try to hunt you down for your child. I do think she will survive. My friend had her baby at 6 months and she's as healthy as any other baby that was carried full term
2006-06-17 01:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question is what now?? i say try to be healthy because i'm sure you would want better for your daughter... it's hard to be a young mother ( i had my son at 19) but keep your head up and like i said try to get healthy because your daughters greatest teacher is YOU!! are you to blame i think you had something to do with it but that means maybe you should get some help... if it's gods will for your baby to survive she will good luck and god bless and i hope you get some help
2006-06-22 14:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa_mramos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋