I luv him but things aren't working out. We have a 1 year old together and it'll feel funny with out the three of us together all the time. but we are just getting more and more unbearable to each other. what should i do in this situation?
2006-06-16 17:57:27 · 25 answers · asked by angelicprincess23602 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look sweetie go to marriage counseling pray about it things will work out i promise
2006-06-16 18:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is just leave. That is the cowardly way to do things. It's the easy way out.
My stbx did what you are talking about. She left over 3 months ago with our son that is now 10 1/2 months old. She told me that she realised the other day that she made a big mistake by leaving. My reply was "I know." Ya see, things have changed since she left. The trust in our marriage is totally gone now and we have both kinda made new lives for ourselves.
Since she left we have constantly argued and she has filed for a divorce. But let me tell you. Over 5 1/2 years of being together we probably had only 5 or 6 arguements. She now knows that we had a great life together.
How do you go back to the way it was? You can't.
2006-06-17 07:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, marriage has ups and downs, its like a rubber band, when a couple is getting along the line of harmony is strait, but when you get to feeling out of love or angry one or both of you are pulling away from each other, its a natural thing in marriage, after a while you will both find your selves back on the line of Harmony. Give it time, marriage isn't easy, and that baby is worth trying to keep it together as long as there is no violence involved. If You Love him, Don't leave him, it will only make things worse in the end if you do. Try counseling if you need to,love and marriage are worth trying every thing. Good luck
2006-06-17 01:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if the feeling is mutual. You don't fear your husband do you? I'd try counseling...and if you just don't feel it in your heart to work through things...you need to sit down & talk about it...in a setting you feel comfortable in. Maybe you need to have some family members nearby? Is your husband one to react with anger? If so, just be careful how you approach the topic...it's a pretty serious one. Are you sure you want to give up on your marriage with a child involved? Why did you get married in the first place...is all hope lost? Strange you feel "funny" when out together? Do you have a sense of why?
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2006-06-17 01:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by tula_p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling, take a vacation, buy some sexy lingerie...Try your hardest to work things out. If he is not violent or does not have a drug or addiction problem, then try everything in your power to save the marriage. I've had friends who got divorced and then regretted it greatly after. A divorce may be a financial and emotional stress for you later. It will also negatively affect your child. No man is perfect. If you think it's greener on the other side, guess again. If your husband is a good provider, a good father and treats you well, try your hardest to rediscover what made you fall in love with him.
2006-06-17 01:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,normally I would say try counseling, but you state that you want to leave your husband, you just don't know how. It sounds to me like you have already made up your mind. However, you don't give us a whole lot of information to go on - why exactly do you want to leave him? Is there some sort of abuse going on? Has he been unfaithful to you? It's hard to give good advice without more details. Maybe you should try talking to your husband - does he feel the same way? If so, maybe you could try telling him how you feel - maybe suggest a trial separation before you fly off the handle and decide to file for divorce.
2006-06-17 01:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not...more and more young women are suffering from POST PARTUM BLUES...it really is a mental condition! Go see your GYN Doctor and see if there is a medicine that would help you. IF your child is only 1 yr old chances are that you are still having "after" effects from the pregnancy. Don't forget that it took NINE (9) months of your body changing for that baby...it doesn't "spring" back to "normal" just after having given birth. Go see your doctor and take him with you so that HE hears what the doc has to say too. By the way, a child always brings changes to a couple....now your husband is not NUMBER ONE.
2006-06-17 01:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by newlastname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in the marriage rut. You need to find things to do apart. Get a baby sitter and go have some fun, with or without your husband. Take a weekend and go to the beach with some friends. The main thing is that you need to have a life outside of the house.
2006-06-17 01:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's commited adultery, the Bible does not condone divorce. Your vows included every situation that a couple could encounter to make things work in time of trouble. So, take the suggestions that tell you to try every means to resolve your issues first.
2006-06-17 01:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont just GIVE UP because things aren't working out. Go see a marriage counselor. It's people like you that are destroying the sanctity of marriage nowadays!!!!
2006-06-17 01:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ever think about just takeing a break from each other.
and to see if you really want to be there.
but do not stay together for the child. it would be harder on the child in the long run.
the child comes first
but talk it over. if you love each other things will work out.
2006-06-17 01:02:04 · answer #11 · answered by do little 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋