This is a little embaressing for me but Plz help so i can get over this craving?

Question

i am trying not to be gay (if that has not been herd before) but it is something i whant to do and i will achive it i am different than others i am not gay i just have a prob with sex and no not like addicted dont whant to have sex with a guy but i whant to know what it is like so are there any suggestions on what to do on like how i can simulate some of the stuff (non to brite i am ):) but like how to simulate the whole anel sex thing i just whant to know how it feels. 10 Points goes to the person that can give me the best ideas and no i do not have a Dil*** and do not plan on getting one what are other things i could use

dose anyone know how to google this plz and.................... i have been thru this gay is not a option can we plz stick to my real Q

Answer 1

take three fingers......and shove them up your ***.

Answer 2

no problem man. since you say you are trying to get over this phase, i'd suggest you get someone to do this to you. because if you do it yourself, ie: using a carrot or a cucumber or anything else by yourself,the angle might be wrong and u might hurt yourself. this is a delicate area and you do not want any bleeding from it cuz you might need medical attention then.
also i've read, that stimulating the prostate (all you need to do is to put a well lubricated finger(s) in and curl your fingers towards your penis and you'll find a golf ball sized thing- thats ur prostate)
can bring very pleasurable rewards. get your gf to do it for you (so that you can give the appearance that you are straight and still get anal sex)

i personally think that it would be a lie but i need to respect whatever that you are going through and just give suggestions that are workable for you.
word of advice : 1.there is nothing wrong with being gay!
2. use LOTSA lube or it'll hurt when you take the fingers out!
3. talk to your potential partner and be really honest with her. its not fair to keep her in the dark while using her.

good luck man. hope this helps

Answer 3

OK -- let me answer this as best I can.

1. Some straight guys like things in their butts. Some of them even have g/fs use strap on dildos to **** them. Some of them can shoot from having something in their *** even if they don't jerk off, the same as some gay guys can.

Simulating anal sex -- even a dildo isn't much good at that. Don't stick random things in there, something will get stuck. Try things that cannot get stuck. Some people use cucumbers -- I think those would be too large (I'm a top, and I am trying to help, but its foreign to me). Start with lots of lube and fingers, one at first. Rub inside back there, while you ... ahem... in the front. Work up over two or three weeks to 2 fingers. You might then try a hotdog, but be careful to stick it straight in and pull it straight out when you are finished, if it does break off though, don't panic, just wait, it will come out when you defecate -- no prob (or so I understand from friends who use them). Over time work your way up to a small cucumber, or a big hotdog.

2. You say you don't want to have sex with a guy. If you just want things up your butt, you might be straight. BUT, if you are attracted to guys, please don't waste large portions of your life "struggling" to be straight, "fighting" what's natural for you, and hiding in the closet (which is what the ex-gay movement is all about, not changing anyone -- but just shoving them back in the closet, I think the leaders themselves secretely know that no one changes, because they haven't. I challenged a local one to an internet debate, and he refused point blank -- they know they are still gay inside.) So, if you are straight and like things in your butt fine -- but don't let other people or false and laughable ideas of bronze age deities ruin your life if deep inside you know you really are interested in men. It's a sad wasteful way to live.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 4

Umm...I'm so sorry, but I think you might actually be gay, or at least bi-sexual. Or "bi-curious" anyway. But if you want to avoid going there--and of course that IS your prerogative---then obvious alternatives to a Dildo are:

A girlfriend's fingers/hand. A whole hand *can* be inserted. With care and taking your time. A little scary, but apparently it's possible, and some people swear by it. ?.
Vegetables. Seriously. People everywhere have used vegetables for this purpose. Just warm them up first, lol.

That's all I got.
And that was slightly embarrassing for me too, lol.

Answer 5

The one thing everyone seems to have forgotten is to RELAX!!! If it is your first time with something "up" there, the "entrance" can be kind of hard to get past, but once you do. WOW!. If you do use veggies, or randon houehold objects, put a condom on them. It makes for easy clean up, and can block infection form whatever you are using. Again LOTS of lube, and RELAX! The first "entrance can take a while. But is well worth it!

Good luck.

Answer 6

Well, I have a friend that has clients with your situation. She is a domanatris, and men pay her to perform anal sex on them. If you don't feel comfortable paying someone for that type of service, then just go to a gay club or bar find you someone to hook up with (PLEASE PRACTIVE EXTREMELY SAFE SEX) and see what it's like. I can't believe I'm honestly telling you this, but that's your only option. Otherwise seek professional help to see if you can overcome this urge or feeling you're having.

Answer 7

have you ever watched real sex? they'll interview people and ask "what is your favorite type of sex" and half the guys, with their girlfriends right next to them will say "anal sex."

Maybe you're bicurious.


Ask these questions..

Do you still like girls physically?

Do you still like girls emotionally?

Do you like guys physically?

Do you like guys emotionally?

Even if you only like girls emotionally, you're still bi, and not gay.

Your best bet is a dildo lol. Sorrt to break it to you. You can try a carrot or something though, lol. This is gross to talk about lol.

Answer 8

you know what.....u sound as though u are gay and are jus too embarassed to admitt it... being gay is a personal sexual choice..not something to can jus pretend not to be...if u do that believe me...u'll forever be unhappy! whats so wrong about being gay today?? nearly every second person is gay..
look..jus try to have courage and learn to accept ur sexual prefrence..life will seem so much more simpler when ur are not trying to be someone u r not

Answer 9

You could use your fingers. Then, go around your house and look to see if there is anything that is round and soft on the sides. Use a water base lubricant and slowly shove it up your ***. Maybe, that'll help.

Answer 10

You are gay. Hey, I'm not here to judge. Do you. Just be honest with yourself. A straight man does not fantasize about having anal sex with another man. If you don't want to buy a dildo, get a cucumber or something. Please, no gerbils on your first try.

Answer 11

Ok so no big deal.....find something that is slim and has no rough edges. Use lots of lube and go for it. Get it outta your system. Lots of guys wonder about it but most never act on it.