my wife was on the phone with an ex boyfriend for 3 hours yesterday. Is this normal?
2006-06-16 16:33:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
lol thats normal. she chose you not him. thats all there is to it.
2006-06-16 16:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Oh, Natey-O! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not say it is normal to be on the phone for 3 hours with an ex-anything! To have a conversation of less than I 'd say 20 min. would be normal! But 3 hours she is not only lying to you but to herself. Would she like it if you were on the phone with an ex for that period of time? I know it would not settle with me if my husband was doing it! I say if you want respect and honesty you have to give it! If she can not give you the respect then why should you give it to her? Talking to an ex for 3 hours is not in any way alright!!!!!! Maybe you should move on, she does not come across as being ready to do so with you.
2006-06-16 16:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by SL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...it would definitely arouse suspicions but you shouldn't be quick to jump to any conclusions without talking to her first. How do you know she was on the phone with him for 3 hrs? Were you there when she was talking to him, if you were then you didn't hear her part of the conversation? Have a talk with her and ask her why she talked to her ex for 3 hrs. I mean honestly I don't see the need to talk to an ex boyfriend for 3 hrs, but then again I can't be the judge.
2006-06-16 17:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has other guys as friends it is possible this behavior is normal.
You ever here a girl say to a guy after going out "I think we should be just friends", "I enjoy spending time with you but, your kind of like the brother I never had".
If not it may concern me a little. you see some women cannot separate friendship from a sexual relationship & therefore if they are in a friendship with someone long enough they sexualize it.
this is about as good as I could do without more information I would assume your relationship is well. If you give the indication that you don't trust her, you may just be pushing her into his arms since she might feel that she could trust him... so don't let on that you do not trust her... if not his arms maybe someone elses. women need to feel like they are trusted.\
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2006-06-16 17:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Starscream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking the question, you already know the answer.
I would talk to her. 3 hours is not normal. I don't spend 3 hours on the phone with my best friend!
2006-06-16 17:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex calls me all the time because he's depressed and lonely and has no friends. I only put up with it because he's a bit suicidal too and I don't want him to off himself because then it would be on my conscience.
Maybe this is the case with your wife and her ex, maybe not. If it bothers you - you should talk to her about it.
2006-06-16 16:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Melissa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first read your question I was going to say yes it is normal. Then I saw that it was for 3 hours. Now, unless she hasn't talked to him in 5-10 years, and is just catching up, 3 hours is NOT normal. WTF? I would kick my husbands *** if he was talking to an ex for that long.
2006-06-16 16:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by boit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha, ha.. my hubby (who has been reading over my shoulder...) says that you should call an ex-girlfriend and chat for 3 hours, then let wifey stew in her juices for awhile... that will put a stop to that nonsense right quick!
2006-06-16 17:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i won't say it's normal...but i'll tell you that there may be a perfectly good reason why...they could have been really good friends after they broke up with each other and they just got a chance to update each other about their lives at the moment...but, it can help you to tell her that you didn't feel comfortable about this too...and you should...that way you send the message that you are trying to understand her but that she should be the one doing some explanation...
2006-06-17 00:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by adiktedtoian14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if your married yes,... this is bad. Because she dated this person. she had chemistry with them.... when mixed together they always react /which means there will be something there. If yur wife told u about it, maybe its not her fault... maybe he called her out of the blue and she dint want to be rude, or/and he talks a lot. either way, u need to confront her and tell her how u feel, which is probably not confortable about the idea of them catching up.,,,,
2006-06-16 16:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by S Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how often they talk. If they talk for 3 hours every week then that it is a bit too much but if they haven't talked in months or years then its fine.
2006-06-16 16:46:05 · answer #11 · answered by shiftcomma3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋