My husband and I separated ways without resorting to annulment. He left us (his family of 25 years) on New Year's Day, 2000, to do some soul searching as he said when in fact, he just wanted to be with his other woman. He came back after three months and since then, he never left again but never did he tell me that he wanted to make up for his shortcomings. I learned from my friends that he still is seeing this woman and is even having affairs with our maids. Since September of 2000, I never allowed him, for health reasons, to have sexual contact with me On and off, I lived separately from him and my children but lately, I decided to go back to our house. We are now living in the same house but in different rooms. How could I make everyone believe that we are no longer doing sex together because nobody believes me and this makes me a liar to their eyes? I don't even know what they are apt to every time they ask me about it.
2006-06-16 16:27:14 · 11 answers · asked by Ruzzo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not financially capable to get annulment or to rent a new place where I can take with me my grandchildren. My two children are old enough to take good care of themselves but what about my young grandchildren with my youngest daughter who is still unmarried to anybody and is sitll studying? I want to personally take good care of them.
2006-06-16 16:35:45 · update #1
Its nobodys business what the two of you are doing. You know what your doing and thats what matters. Stand up and tell them nothing is going on and its none of their business. He is only there for the kids and thats it. I think he is the one who should leave and start paying you child support. Once a cheat always a cheat you will never be able to trust him again. Dont worry about it cuz it will drive you crazy .... Let people think what they want. You know your not having sex and if they dont believe you so be it. Good luck. hope everything works out for you
2006-06-16 16:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by ice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you want to take care of them but you need to do whats best for you. And living with your husband is just going to get more complicated because you are going to keep feeling the hurt of the betrayal. As far as others outside your immediate family simply smile and say " Believe whatever it is you would like to believe, I know the truth and thats good enough for me" They should get the hint and back off if not then just simply ignore them it is not any of thier business.
2006-06-16 23:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by Small Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I dont think it is anyones business what goes on between you and your still legal husband. Good for you though on the no sex thing...who knows what he was up too those 3 months. I really wouldnt concern myself with making others believe your not sleeping with him...the more you deny it to some people the more they think its true...like adding gas to a fire. Good luck hope this helps. Really sorry you were put through that.
2006-06-16 23:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this type of thing before but basically it is no ones business what goes on in your house. Don't worry about what people think or say. It is your life and you are the one that has to live it. Just take care of you and try to do what makes you happy. You should really try to work things out but if you can't just make yourself as happy as you possibly can.
2006-06-16 23:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Food4Thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I agree that its really no one's business, you have to admit that it does appear...suspicious...and that you are in a questionable situation. Before you went through this you likely would have had trouble believing someone else. You have to be willing to understand that not everyone is going to believe you - no matter what you do. But your real friends (those who know you well) *will* believe you, and the rest of the world..they don't know you, don't know what they are talking about, and have no business talking about you anyway.
2006-06-16 23:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to explain yourself to no one not your friends or your kids. He is still your husband and if you are comfortable with your living arrangements why change them. It should not matter what other people think only what you think about things. Don't worry nobody has to live your life but you.
2006-06-16 23:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by klynnd1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that nothing is going on between the 2 of yous. Others should respect your privacy. I wouldn't worry what the others are saying. It is your life don't let them try to tell you what is going on stick up for your self. If they continue then let them know it is bothering you about them not beliving you. Good luck........
2006-06-16 23:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when do you have to report to anyone what goes on in your house? It's nobody else's damn business what goes on in your house and they need to be told that ASAP.
2006-06-16 23:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I totally believe you. I am in the same sorta relationship with my wife.
2006-06-16 23:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by wolfman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the world are you even still living with him?
this troubles me.
get out. then you won't even need to explain.
2006-06-16 23:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋