is it assult if while having sex with your partner of 3 yrs....you ask them to stop because they are hurting you and they completely ignore you...and later when you talk about it you are told they never heard you??
Do I leave the relationship or stay?
2006-06-16 16:13:20 · 28 answers · asked by jerseygirl1230 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Usually assault is intentional. It sounds like your partner didn't mean to hurt you and probably didn't hear you. If your partner is loving in every other way and this is the first time you've been hurt, I would chaulk it up to getting carried away in the heat of the moment. If it happens again or becomes a habit, then it's time to reevaluate.
2006-06-16 16:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Heathen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It *may* be sexual assault. And notice my emphasis in the word "may".
The thing is... how strong was your "no"? Did you said it once, or repeatedly?
Before taking any drastic measure, you should discuss it with him. Tell him that you are upset about what happened and that you don't want it to happen again. If this happens again, then that's the sign that he has a clear disregard for your interests and safety, and you should drop his sorry a-ss, or even report him to the police if he acts too agressively.
But remember this... next time, when you don't want to have sex, take a stand, give him a firm No, and stand up.
If you first say no, but then you cave in, it's not assault.
Regarding the relationship... only you can know if you want to be with him or not. The fact that you are asking this here is already a bad sign, since it means you two don't have enough trust to discuss this to its fullest extent. Ask yourself if you love him, if he respects you as a person, loves you, etc... Only you can know for sure when it's time to break your relationship or not.
If you consider he disrespects you, however, that's a clear sign that you should not be in that relationship.
2006-06-16 16:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Firefox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel that it was sexually assult then leave him i guess.
aybe he didn't here u but maybe he did and just wanted to get get his nut and played it off like he didn't hear u. i mean how many times were u telling him stop. Even though it should be only one time and that's it. Go with what u want to do that feels like the right thing to do
2006-06-16 16:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by SEXXYDARKCHOCO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe of asking to signal an arm is sexual attack. A fourth grade boy touching your leg is irrelevant and he might want to were punished for it. yet, easily that is not any longer sexual attack. he's only a fourth grade infant with some significant social issues. Panning him off as a rapist received't help him both. in case you suggested "no" and he listened, then there is not any longer some thing to whinge about. in case you label him on the instantaneous as a rapist or some variety of underage sex criminal you're in simple terms going to screw him up. If he hasn't executed some thing because the leg contact, depart him be and ignore about him.
2016-11-14 21:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by mastrolia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am confused here, them to stop they are hurting you they never heard you, how many partners we talking here? them and they usually means more than one. I think "they" heard you and "they" just had unfinished business. legally "they" should have pulled out when you requested and let you finish up with some hand manipulation. realistically , they aren't stopping until They are done. if they failed to honor your wishes , it is lack of respect, and they should find their sex elsewhere. since guys don't have vaginers, what is hurting to you is still feeling pretty good to them so they can't imagine stopping. , not a good reason to continue, but it happens.
2006-06-16 16:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends i guess. if you tell him to stop, he should stop. are you sure you said it loud enough for him to hear? i have had this problem with my husband before where he was hurting me and i asked him to stop and a couple of times i was in tears cause he did not stop, and he always said it was because he didnt hear me and that i needed to speak up. i also think sometimes a guy does hear you and choses to ignore you.how did he act afterwards when you told him he hurt you? if he acted like he did not care, i would leave. if he acted as though he cared and was sorry, maybe he really didnt hear you. follow your heart.
2006-06-16 16:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, Has this happen before ? If not maybe he didnt really hear you. On the other hand you are truly unhappy. Express with your partner how you feel about what happen and maybe you guys should take a break.
2006-06-16 16:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does not matter when you say stop or no that is what it means... There is no way he could not heard you. I think that only you know the answer to your question but is not about us telling you is about you doing the right thing to do... Good luck and God bless
2006-06-16 16:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No means no. If you asked them to stop and they didn't it was wrong. What do you mean "he didn't hear you?" Was someone blocking his ears???
As far as stopping the relationship, that's up to you, but this incident doesn't illustrate much respect towards you.
2006-06-16 16:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kenteman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave because he doesn't care enough to listen to ur wants and only forfills his........a good partner gives a little/takes a little.....it was assult if it was unwantedsex
2006-06-16 16:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋