My daughter keeps stressing about how she wants a tattoo so bad, but she's only 15 years old. I dont know what to do because she's an honor student and all, and she's really a good kid. She doesnt give me any trouble, at least not yet. Its like...I dont really have a problem with the tattoo in general, its just that I think 15 is too young for one. Her argument is that she thinks its not fair because I let her twin brotther get his ear pierced. I'm trying to tell her I didnt say no, I just said not right now. What the hell should I do?
2006-06-16 15:34:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm not a parent..
Although, I'd recommend the following:
Negotiate with her - on an age, in which she CAN get a tatoo, such as 18 years of age. Individuals at school, also can be influencing her on her decision making. You could ask her, "why" she wants to get such a tattoo, then negotiate an age or plan, and go from there.
2006-06-16 15:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LET HER GET A TATTOO. Not only am I a parent, but I am 20 years old and remembered when I wanted to get a tattoo at an early age. I am so happy I did not. Peircings are a totally different thing because they can be taken out. She is not ready to make that decision. Plus, she is not going to have a 15 year old body her whole life and if she gets a tattoo and her body changes or she gets pregnant (later I mean, when shes married), she will probably regret it. If she MUST get a tattoo I would suggest the back of her shoulder, small, and preferably not colorful because at least then it wont be so detremental if she hates it later on. Thats where I got mine (when I was 18) and I forget I have it 90% of the time. But I still say tell her absolutly positively NO.
2006-06-16 22:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a pretty hard decision to make. My daughter is also 15 and want's to get her nose pierced. I am not certain what to do either. I think with a tattoo that maybe if it is one that is on the lower back and not noticable it may be ok but she needs to know this is permanent and will always be there. My neice had 3 tattoo's by the time she was 20 and she regret's having gotten them now. I would just tell her the to be sure and look at the big picture and know that is what she want's and maybe tell her it has to be hidden. Now tell me what i need to do about my daughter wanting the nose piercing. LOL
2006-06-16 22:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted one when I was sixteen and my mom and grandmother told me to wait until I was 18 and if I still wanted the same tattoo in the same place, then they would pay for it...it worked! I waited since I couldnt afford it at 16. Ear piercing is way different...doesnt cost so much to "remove" it when you decide you dont want it any longer. It's a lifetime commitment that will probably not stand the test of time. I did end up getting the tattoo eventually, but I was 21. Luckily at 35, I still like it and since it's on my ankle, it hasn't changed shape!
2006-06-16 22:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're the one with the issues. you need to be consistent and give straight answers. a "maybe" or "not right now" answer to a question makes a teen question your intelligence. if you are busy with something at the time the ? is asked then give them a time when they can ask you again. in this age of information there are many ways of communication. find one that works i.e. email, text message, voice mail, just before bed etc. etc. you have to learn a way of communication. if you don't you will alienate yourself from your child. as for the issue of tattoos ask her this will you regret the tatoo when you are older tell her the consequences of getting a tattoo. search on google or yahoo about tattoo related problems or diseases. also check out the tattoo parlors in town and if you say yes, also say i get to pick the tattoo shop. if you do not give a answer to your child soon she may get the tattoo anyway and it may be at a shop where they are not as clean as others. its your child safety first should be your concern.
2006-06-18 07:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by silvereye_z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too young to make a permanent decision like that...... she hasn't matured enough to fully realize that next month when she regrets getting it or doesn't like it anymore...... TOO BAD !!! Sure, they can laser them off these days, but leaves scarring or a patch of skin that doesn't tan with the rest. Tell her that you will go with her when she gets one after her 18th birthday. She'll be doing worse things after she leaves home that you'll never know about anyway, tell her you would like to be a part of this when she is of age to do it without your permission. Until she is 18 she needs a parent signature to get one anyway, simply don't sign for one. Warn her of the dangers of getting an amateur tattoo, infection, gang green, and all the nasty stuff that a bad unsterile tattoo session can bring. It must be done by pros in a sterile environment and you must see them unwrap a new sterile needle. Also remind her that eventually she will be a senior citizen sporting that tattoo, so something in good taste is in order ! I am 40 yrs. old and have a few tats myself, experience is the best teacher.
2006-06-16 23:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by scottbeachcalifornia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I wanted a tattoo, I was 17 at the time, my mom took me to the parlor where she got hers done and told them that she would sign any ppwk so that I could get one, and they still wouldn't do it! I had to wait till i was 18...
But 15 does seem a little too young even to me and I'm only 22... Tell her that when she's 18 she can get on if she wants, because legally she'll be an adult..
2006-06-17 00:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go people watching with her. Show her some older women with tattoos. Point out how as their bodies changed, so did the image. Show her how expensive it is to have a tattoo removed by laser. You may be able to get good info from a dermatologist or a cosmetic surgeon. I'll bet you could scare the living crap out of her bad enough that she will settle for something less permanent.
2006-06-16 22:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ilene W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went into the army when he was 17 and got tattoos on his arms.He is now very embarrassed by them,and just reminded our kids that something like that is permanent.They can surgically remove them but it's expensive and leaves scars.She might not want it when she's 30.Yeah find out why she wants it and tell her you want her to wait to make sure that's what she'll want to live with for the rest of her life.Of course 15 year olds think because they want it now they'll want it 15 years from now,so that might be hard argument.
2006-06-16 22:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your answer of "not right now" is honest enough.
However you have 2 choices:
Allow her----->BUT:
Ask her to convince you on why she should have a tattoo. If she says it's because she likes them. ..That's not a good enough answer. If someone else's parents let their child...that's not a good enough answer.
A part of this allows her to think through thoroughly on why she wants one...how she will pay for it will have to be part of the convincing and a question needed to be answered. Who and where it will be done and for her to investigate on their safety procedures.
Maybe it will be too much work for her to look up buuuut maybe not lol.
Set specific guidlines, "you can have a tattoo if it is reasonably small and hidden..." (because someday you will have a career).
Or you can tell her that your answer is NO.
But you need to be able to provide reasons on why you think it is a bad idea at the moment.
Maybe you will feel more comfortable if she waits until her Sweet Sixteen?
Good Luck!! :)
2006-06-16 22:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by baybemine2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋