I dance very well. Enough to have had hundreds of people compliment me on the way I dance and be absolutely amazed by my talent. My boyfriend comes along and says that I should tone down my moves because only 75% of what I do looks good. He says that his friends call me the dancing queen and that it is not meant as a compliment. I think that if you are at a dance club, you need to loosen up and if you won't dance yourself, then loosen up when it comes to the self expression and talent of others. I thought that they sounded like haters. I feel that my boyfriend should be complimneting me most of all about the things I do well. Not trying to bring my ego down a few notches.
2006-06-16 15:27:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I should elaborate on the fact that many people are amazed on how well I dance because they tell me so. Not that I need thy'er approval, but it just confirms the fact that I do very well on the dance floor. I have danced for years. I don't need a reality check folks. I need to have fun and do what I do because people enjoy watching me. DJ's loved when I would dance at their party because I brought more life to their music. People do not just come up to you out of no where in a club a tell you are a great dancer if you are not.
2006-06-16 17:04:31 · update #1
He should be supporting to you not knocking you down. How long have you been with this guy??? Access the situation.
2006-06-16 15:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by winona e 5 · 13⤊ 8⤋
I guess this all depends on whether or not he's actually right. We shouldn't be so quick to hang the boyfriend or brand him a "hater" if we're not sure that he's telling the truth. Think about all the absolutely horrible singers we see each year on American Idol, and they all had tons of friends that supported them. Very few people care enough and have the courage to tell someone when they have no talent. Don't ever fall into the trap of assuming that a boyfriend (or anyone's) job is to stroke your ego. Only you can do that for yourself. Sometimes love is about telling someone what they need to hear, and not just what they want to hear.
Having said that, there's also the possibility that he really is a hater. Or more specifically, jealous and insecure about all those eyes on his girlfriend. In which case I highly suggest you finding someone who's neutral. Someone who isn't that close to either of you who can tell you objectively whether or not you're getting carried away on the dance floor. It's the only way to know for sure. If you are, try turning it down a notch and see what happens. If you're already dancing just fine, than you might want to consider finding a boyfriend who's a little more mature.
2006-06-16 16:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's being honest with you, whch is a far better quality than telling you what you want to hear. You may be a fantastic dancer, but perhaps you've taken all the compliments you've gotten on your dancing a little too far on the floor. Next time you go out, tone down the moves a bit. What harm is there in that? See if he notices.
2006-06-16 15:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by GreekChick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got it right. He is either jealous or he wants to knock your ego down a few notches.
You dance good. And you know that. Forget him.
He probably cannot dance 1/3 as good as you.
Dance on, dancing queen, dance on
2006-06-17 02:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by javarick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is jealous because you get all this attention.
I am sorry he is that immature. But just in case,, ask a really trusted friend both male and female and ask them to critique your moves honestly and tell you if you should tone it down.
2006-06-16 15:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you are right. He should be the one supporting you and not listening to his friends. If you know you are a great dancer then who cares what they think anyway.
2006-06-16 15:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His friends are haters, and he's probably embarass of what they say so maybe thats why he said that to you, and plus, he's a follower.
2006-06-16 15:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go out and have fun he doesn't like that everyone is paying attention to you
2006-06-16 15:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya i would be mad to if he is your boyfriend he shouldnt be trying to knock down your ego and he should be mean to you like that or let his friends be mean to you
2006-06-16 15:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a HATER
2006-06-16 15:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by BLANK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋