my parents think im against them...im really not...can ya help me?!?

Question

okay......i am so not against my parents....when something happens....i want to give them a reason for what it happened...like when one night i forgot to do the dishes and they thought " that i forgot on purpose" and many cases like this have happened. Yeah really MANY cases. ....they also think I make my own rules and do things on my own way....but i try hard to follow their rules....And ive never been against them...but they think i am....im a guy: 14....help? (r they acting like that bec. of their age? or what?)

i respect them alot....really...like a LOT...the only problem is that theres a big lack of COMMUNICATION....they jump to conclusions without talking to me or asking me....

Answer 1

First, let me say, always try to obey your parents rules. They deserve your respect and I hope you give them their due. Now looking at this from another angle, I would say your parents are taking the things you do or don't do, to personnel. I would wager to say you are probably their first child. Am I right? Parents tend to expect perfection out of #1, (lucky you if you are, huh?) Anyway, as times goes by and you get them broke in, if you have younger sibblings then you are paving the road, which will make your parents seem easier going toward them. But that, my friend, is just the law of the jungle. It takes us parents awhile to realize you don't do things to us, but you do them to your self. You are just being a normal teenager. It's your way of rebelling and claiming your own independence. Its called "breaking away". This process is very hard on parents, because we start to realize our young will eventually be leaving the nest and making their place in the world. Just set down and talk to them. Make sure the timing is right. Explain how you feel, and listen to how they feel. If you handle things without getting excited or flat out arguing with them instead of trying to reason with them, they have to see that you are becoming a mature young adult. But when you act like a baby, they jump right in, and want to take back full control over you. Its breed in us parents to save our children. Your job is to prove to them you don't need saving, well anyway, as much as you use to. In time, it will all straightened out again, and life will begin to feel normal to you. By the way, this has nothing to do with their age, it has everything to do with the fact they are parents and they love you. Remember this always!!!

Answer 2

It sounds like your being rebellious. Unless you are paying your portion of the bills as if you were an equal part room mate They have every right to expect you to carry your weight in other ways such as chores. If this were a job, you would have been fired. Do you have a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and clothes on your back? Thank your parents and wash the dishes!

Answer 3

It's not because of their age - it's because of your age. You are a teen, and you aren't an adult - you should respect your parents rules. If they are misunderstanding your motives then you need to talk to them and tell them that you really did forget and didn't do it on purpose. Just talk to them and be honest - communication is important to have a good relationship with your parents - doesn't matter what age you are.

Answer 4

and why do you care if they are gonna be all stupid and be like ya you did it on purpose you just hate me doncha yadda yadda y do you care im 13 and i dont care when my dad does that because i do make my own rules
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Answer 5

parents are like that i ignore my aunt and uncles and stuf b/c i dont live w/ my mom or dad i live w/ my g g-ma and i never have rules from her but every one else thinks i should listen to them but i dont!