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I have been married for three years and i love my wife more than anything in this world and i would never cheat on her. I have met a new friend lately who is Nigerian and she is the most perfect form of womanhood any man could wish for. She is like an amazon princess and perfectly formed. She is 15 years my junior and she wants us to have sex. I really want to make love to her but i am loyal to my wife and it making me ill. tell me your thoughts on this

Answer 1

THOUGHT OF YOU WANNA CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE ALREADY MAKE ME ILL.. NOTHING FURTHER.. YOU'RE A SCUM IF YOU SCREW HER.. I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR MEN THAT NOT TREASURE THEIR VOW OF MARRIAGE.

Answer 2

brother, after 9 years of marriage, I can tell you that in life you are going to meet women other than your wife that you find sexy and attractive and just flat turn your crank. Your wife will see men that are sexy and attractive to her as well. Its being human. I once got propositioned while on a road trip while talking to my wife on the phone (no, I did not accept). People are sexual creatures; don't be shocked by being attracted to women other than your wife. It happens. Don't think that your wife hasn't been attracted to men other than you. So what as long as she did not act on those feelings.

The fact that you are considering acting upon it is a different issue. (I read what you wrote - and I disagree, I believe you are thinking about it) I'll put it to you this way, I have come too far and built too much with my wife to throw it all away over a muscle spasm. If life were just a big orgie, we would not get married. There is much, much more to marriage than boffing. Do you want to throw it away for an evening of pleasure? You made a promise in front of God, your family, and your friends when you said "I Do"; honor that.

If this new friend can't understand that you are married, perhaps she isn't such a great friend after all. Consider ending that friendship if the temptation is too strong.

My advice - smile that some beautiful woman is attracted to you. Go to the store, get some champagne and some chocolate covered strawberries and then go home to your wife and have a wonderful evening with the one you fell in love with and promised to be faithful to.

Answer 3

When you married your wife you made a commitment and that should not be broken. Lust is a huge disadvantage that the flesh has. Could you imagine your life with out your wife whom who have spent 15 years of your life? Are you willing to through all that away??? All those memories and precious things that ya share together.
If you really want to go through this, you should end things with your wife and start over. There is no reason why you should put a person through so much pain, betrayal and dishonesty. Think really hard before you do something you will regret for the rest of your life.

Answer 4

Yea, you SHOULD know the answer! How many other guys do you think she has done this to? You are married and she knows that, she is 15 years younger and all she wants is to have sex with you, a married man! If you really loved your wife as much as you say then you would have the little ho where to go and how to get there, you don't deserve your wife just because you are considering cheating on her.

Answer 5

only three years you are tempted to betray your wife. Just wondering how long do you think your marriage should last? You did not mention if you have any children? For your sake and for your wife sake I hope not!! Does it really matter Venus herself decended to earth and wants you badly? Just wonder what other excuses you would come up with if something tickle your fancy. I am loyal BUT.......means you are not loyal ..I love my wife more than anything in the world BUT......means you don't ........I"m always weary of people who use the word NEVER.......It's the most use word yet the least commited to by many people ....

Answer 6

Zip it up, take it home, and don't let it back out again. What are you....nuts?? Just remember, your wife could meet a Greek Adonis, perfect in every way...how would you like to compete with that??? Well, it happens everyday..and no matter how you look at it, you are taking a very real chance that the wife you say you love so much will find out.. How would you feel then, Stud? Hmmmm Yes, I thought so...not so studly, huh?

Answer 7

WHAT YOU MAY BE FEELING FOR YOUR NIGERIAN FRIEND IS LUST AND LUST ALONE CANNOT SURVIVE THE TEST OF TIME. IF YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE, YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER GIVE IN TO THAT DESIRE WHICH MAY RUIN YOUR GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.

THE FEELING OF GUILT WILL SHOW AT THE END AND I'M SURE THAT YOUR WIFE WILL HAVE A HUNCH ABOUT YOUR INFIDELITY.

THE SEXUAL SATISFACTION DERIVED FROM HAVING SEXUAL CONTACT WITH SOMEONE YOU SEXUALLY LIKE WILL LAST FOR ONLY SOME MINUTES OR HOURS BUT THE GUILT WILL LIVE ON AND ON IN YOUR HEART WITH THE PASSING OF TIME. WHICH WILL YOU PREFER, A HAPPY HOME OR A BROKEN FAMILY?

YOU ALSO SAID THAT YOU WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON HER BUT YOUR WANTING TO HAVE SEX WITH YOUR NIGERIAN FRIEND IS IN ITSELF INFIDELITY TO A CERTIAN EXTENT. BUT IT'S GOOD THAT UNTIL NOW YOU HAVE NOT DONE THAT AT ALL. AND IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD DARE NOTDO IT AT ANY TIME JUST TO KEEP MY FAMILY WHOLE. YOU MIGHT EVEN LOST YOUR WIFE IF YOU PURSUE DOING THAT.

LET LOVE AND NOT LUST PREVAIL IN YOUR HEART AND YOU WILL NEVER GO WRONG.

Answer 8

It sounds like your attraction to the other woman is purely physical. You should just talk with your wife, be open with her. It sounds like your attraction is also a red flag that your marriage needs help.

Answer 9

she is 15 yrs younger than you you are married you love your wife how come you are even asking this you should be making love to your wife not this girl

Answer 10

you should keep your distance from this women I watched my best-friend go though finding out her husband had affair after 20yrs of marriage. she left him when back for the sake of the kids and things will never be the same again.he,s sorry but she,ll never forgive him.is it worth loosing everything? you can never pay your wife back for all the hurt you,ll cost her and everyone around you...time doesn't,t heal that one...go with the head on your shoulders...

Answer 11

You say "i love my wife more than anything in this world "

If that is true, the answer is obvious.