im totaly depressed and my boyfriend is not always there..?

Question

we are both studying in the different universities and our schedules conflict to the point that we dont have a time to talk or see each other..what shoukd i do???

Answer 1

College can be a stressful time, due to leaving high school friendships behind, moving away from family, budget shortfalls, and hard work.
There are seven avenues of gaining emotional strength to buffer your emothinal health against stressful changes, they are:
Friends
Family
Health
Meaningful work
Love
Spiritual
Financial.
Many of these are in short supply during college years. Think about going to your college health center and talking about depression. Most colleges have support services that can guide you into a more robust rounded life that gives you more places to turn for support.

Answer 2

I'm 16 too and have kind of the same problem... Not quite as severely, but I know what you mean. I like two guys but one already has a girlfriend and the others says he "won't date in high school". Yet I can't help kinda borderline flirting with them because I feel like I need a boyfriend. (only had one, ever, and my friends are like constantly dating) My advice to you would be to try to meet some guys but only be friends with them... Really get to know a guy before trying to make any romantic moves.

Answer 3

Is he not there phyiscally or emotionally? Two totally different questions. If he isn't there physically, and thats the source of all your depression, you should probably be re-evaluating what's important to you. If he isn't there emotionally, then you might want to consider breaking it off. But you need to look at it in more grey scales than that. Is he not there because he's trying to focus on classes, and thats skewing his vision of what's important, or is he just ignoring you for the sake of ignoring you? Find out where the answer lies and move from there

Answer 4

well are you depressed because of the boyfriend or are you depressed for other reasons?
I would have to recommend that you either find a way to deal with not seeing each other often, or consider ending the relationship. Nobody can be there for you all the time, but it may be that you would be better off with someone who can be there SOME of the time. Its tough stuff, and i wish you well darlin!

Answer 5

well this all depends on how much you feel about this guy.

you need to organize your feelings, and think - do i want to stay in this relationship or is it better off if i date other people?

heres something you should think about:
1. does he care for you as much ?
2. when he's with you, do you still feel that spark?
3. would you be happier if you dated another guy?
4. does he still show his love?
as long as you both love each other , then schedules and distance should be a minor problem..and you'll deff. be able to work this out.

Answer 6

If you are depressed even if your bf was there it doesn't mean he could get you out of your depression. Talk to your friends or someone you trust - or your bf and tell them how you feel. Get your emotions out and try to work through them. If you continue to have a problem with depression you should see your doctor because it might be something you need to be treated for.

Answer 7

I THINK THAT IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES YOU YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL AND SEE WHAT HE THINKS. DONT JUST BREAK UP WITH HIM IF YOU SEE YOURSELF HAVING A FUTURE WITH HIM AND WANTING TO BE WITH HIM. THE TWO OF YOU SHOULD TRY TO MAKE SOME KIND OF COMPROMISE IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIKE MAYBE ONE OF YOU TRANSFERRING TO THE OTHERS SCHOOL OR TRY CHANGING YOUR SCHEDULES SO THE TWO OF YOU HAVE TIME TO TALK TO EACH OTHER EVERYDAY. YOU TWO SHOULD TAKE A WEEK OFF OF SCHOOL JUST TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER.

Answer 8

Ugh I kinda know how you feel. Forgive me.. but maybe you're just unhappy b/c you don't like him. Just try to have fun, it'll take your mind off of everything. Maybe try to talk on the phone at night... it might be short but it's better than nothing.

Answer 9

Maybe you should break it off...Ask him if he will give you some space..so you can focus on your schooling..and I mean focus not go after another guy..wait and see what happens your depression might decrease.<3 G/L

Answer 10

I personally wouldnt advise u to stop talking to your b/f but instead tell him that yo alot of stress, and you feel really depressed and let him know that you want him to help you feel better.