My parents called me and my brother into ther room, they have been having BIG problems since February and have been on and off, but they were together for almost a month, everything seemed perfect, but they r once again saying that it doesnt seem to be working out and my dad was getting an apartment and my mom was to, so now we r moving out of the house. i have been crying for about an hour, how can i cope?
2006-06-16 14:10:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life has a funny way of turning from good to bad in a minute.this is not you or your brothers fault.I know because i have children and me and their father r divorced.At first it is hard to cope,but my kids think of it now as having two fun places to stay instead of one.They lovce to visit with their dad and have fun with me as well.So please dont cry,things take time to heal,just let them know how much you love them both and they will assure you the same thing.Good luck and god bless you.
2006-06-16 14:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Stop crying, because this is not you or your brother's fault. They have tried for as long as they could without causing the two of you any more misery. It's going to be really hard for a while, but time with prayer can help the pain, OK. My 13 yr old is doing OK, after being away from her Dad for a yr now. I know she hurts some time, but she's beginning to slowly except the fact that it's not going to change. They both love you two and will do whatever it takes (other than stay together) to make it easy on you.
2006-06-16 16:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop crying your parents are probably getting a divorce because its for the best. In no way is this your fault or you brothers fault. Adults just grow apart over the years. Right know it might seem hard to cope with but in the future you'll feel better.
2006-06-16 14:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by mozartgirl2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is always hard, especially when we can't do anything about it. They wouldn't be doing this is if it wasn't really, really the only answer for the problems they have. Go tell them both that you really love them, and tell them how you are feeling - sounds like you could do with a couple of big hugs. Sometimes when parents are hurting inside, they forget to give lots of love to those around them. It's a difficult time, but try to be strong. Sometimes change is better than staying in a bad situation.
2006-06-16 14:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your parents know how you are feeling. There is nothing wrong with you being upset - you have every right. You are going through a very traumatic thing in your life and it will take some adjusting to. Talk to your parents or a close friend or relative who can help you understand and get through this.
It will get better it's just going to take some time, make sure you don't bottle your feelings up.
2006-06-16 14:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love your parents and you will like them to be together. However if they are not happy together there is nothing you can do than to let them divorce. One thing you should understand is that you should not try to be in between this problem as this can hurt you. If they are mature enough, they will not let you be involve in their problems. After all you have a life to live and a future to work for. So please try not to let this thing affect you.
Good luck with everything
2006-06-16 14:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it is not your fault. Have they had counseling? Sometimes couples reconcile after living apart, even if one of them is seeing other people. You may ask your parents if you can talk to someone as well (a counselor or family therapist) - divorce if often more difficult for the kids than it is for the parents, and the parents often don't think of this.
2006-06-16 14:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by mikeandrachael2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain feels unbearable? Yes. You love your parents and cannot understand why they have to separate. Of course you want them together for ever and ever. But, unfortunately, life is not always as we would like. Which would you prefer? To hear them arguing and shouting or that they both separate. You can then have the best of both worlds. It is difficult now, I can appreciate, but it will get less painful. You will be stronger for the experience, I hope. Speak to someone you can confide in about your feelings or contact me. plgayle05@yahoo.com. Good luck.
2006-06-16 14:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters you have to recognize that your folks are having some type of problem and even a s young a s you are you should try to get in between them and try to figure out what is happening. Possibly a s a middle person you can aid the situation but for your own peace of mind please try to help out a bit!
2006-06-16 14:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry
in life everything happens for a reason
call ur friends over and do something fun
try to laugh once everyday
nobody has ever died becuz of their parents divorce
at the end it will all work out
plus it may be better for them to not be together
2006-06-16 14:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋