Am I over reacting?Husband and I had this mutual female friend. I noticed that my husband and her would be?

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on da phone more than they should. At least, which makes me uncomfortable. I've mentioned this 2 my husband on more than 1 occasion. I know they're talking about business but I don't like the fact they spend so much time one the phone. She's married, my husband plays golf with her husband. I'm sure her husband isn't aware of the amount of time they spend. I have basically ended the relationship with her..I don't trust her. My husband hasn't ever given me any reason not to trust him. Every time I mention this to my husband we end up in a argument. This is really upsetting me and I don't know what to do. I've spoken with her about the time she and my husband spends on the phone. 2 say da least, we are having a saladmaster demonstration, he invited her and the husband. I said 2 my husband I don't want her here. If I can't at lst control the amount of time you spend talking to her..At least respect our home. We got in2 a fight and he's says he's leaving. What should I do? I cant have this

Answer 1

What does your gut tell you?? Your a woman that knows your own heart.. Your own inter peace? You can drive your own self crazy thinking about something that could be jumping off or something that isn't. Yes your husband should be giving you respect in your own household. In the business hours only he should be dealing with business the rest in family time. You should take the time out and look threw the window and see where you two can come to an agreement and understanding on a simple time frame of business phone calls at home. If he doesn't feel the need to bend or understand what and how you feel about things then, find another hobby to keep you out of the way or simply walk and find a Man that values and respect your opinions,.. Stay in Prayer ask God to show you ,what you want to be shown, or ask from God to open your husband eyes to see something he is not seeing.

Answer 2

This was just his excuse to do what he's been planning for some time, leaving. It's not about you accusing him or her, because you were right to nip it in the bud at the start or if it wasn't a thing going on, it would be, (by the way, there is cheating involved from their actions). Regardless to what others may say, you know your husband, they don't. If you decide to try and patch things up, it's only going to give him the power on how to keep his unfaithfulness going on with your assistance, trying to give him the benefit of doubt. Think hard and long on if you want to give up more years of your life to find out that things may not actually change, he'll just perfect his actions to keep you from finding out.

Answer 3

well i can say this they say to kepp your friends close but your emeny closer, and I have found this to be true. I would' nt say anything more to him about this, I would sit back for a few days or so maybe even longer if things start getting strange like he working late, going for beer after work with his friends and stays out late and you try to call him on his cell he does'nt answer, then i get worried, but the thing to remeber is this: Let him go and have his freedom but keep a close eye on him, ask questions that dont sound suspioucs, make him think that your over your jealousy this will drive him insane becuase he thinks he has won the game when infact your setting him up to figure out if he doing things he is suppose to. But remeber this even though they work together at home is family time so work in most cases should stay at work, obvisously they enjoy talking to one another and like each other, but how far has it gone, the hardest thing a women can do is to sit back analyze the situation, girl get to the bottom of it, do like i said have these people at your house thats what you want, tell your closest friend or someone that would let your secret out over when the other couple is over to analyze and to see if any flirting or just anything strange. I promise you will get results, but dont push him away get him real close but not to close, dont let him figure what your up to, make the other husband notice you more to, this will get her attention, where a tank top or low cut shirt, fix your hair, tell him that he looks nice but do it in a flirting way but not to obivous in the begining becuase you wanna real him to, just to see, after you montior this situation for a while and you have the other husband real close to you let him know and fill him in on what you think might be going on, I am telling you if you take my advice you will find the answers you are looking for. But if nothing were going on between them why is he so offensive when you question him about her, becuase maybe somewhere down line he knows he has done wrong, if there are no other problems in your marriage he should not be ready to throw in the towel dont you agree, you can email me if you want at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Talk to your hubby and tell him you aren't trying to aggrevate him but this situation with this woman is causing problems between you both and ruining your marriage. No friendship on the planet is worth that. He and this woman might just be friends - but the fact that it makes you uncomfortable and it's come between the both of you should be indication enough that the friendship should be put on hold.
Talk to your husband and get into counseling. You both have certain ideas about marriage and friendship and you need to come to an understanding with eachother. A counselor will help you to get your marriage back on the right track.

Answer 5

According to your last question you just found out your pregnant and now he wants to leave. To top if off he's showing a lot of attention for a mutual female friend and he dismisses the fact that this upsets you as if it's normal for a married man to be talking so much with another married woman, not too mention close friends of yours. My suggestion, tell him to get his **** together or you're going to speak to her husband. If he doesn't like that then tell him to go ahead and leave and as soon as he does you're filing for legal separation to include alimony and child support for two children.

Answer 6

I am so very sorry...it sure does sound as if something is about to happen or already has happened between your husband and this woman. What a whore! I would talk to him first and be honest with him letting him know how any infidelity would hurt you so much. He loves you but maybe his priority's are all screwed up. I would have no mercy w/the girl! But you love your man and everyone messes up.

Answer 7

Let him go (and good riddance!) If he is not cheating physically, he certainly is mentally. You've asked him to stop and he's threatened to leave? You're on the losing end of a big stick. Stop threatening and just go or ask him to leave. You'll find out soon enough what you mean to him. Or....maybe you could let him read a few of these answers. If he can talk on the phone to her, you can certainly talk on the Internet to us, right?

Answer 8

i know how u are feeling my sister-inlaw came over here last week and stay for a couple of days and when she was here she would follow my husband every where he went , so i told her last sunday how i felt about it and she left and now we are not talking but i do not care . for u u need to ask your friend what and your husband got between the two for them to be on the phone for hours and just let her know how u feel about it that u do not like it

Answer 9

It seems your friend is an interesting conversationalist; he certainly enjoys her. By any chance, did you and your hubby lack communication in the past? It drives me crazy not being able to have a decent conversation with my husband, but I have my sisters to back me up if he's not available. The more your hubby talks to your friend, the closer they will get and you'll lose him...do the counseling thing soon; you might have already lost him!

Answer 10

Let him leave. If there is really nothng going on then he wouldnt be so upset and unwilling to respect your feelings. They always threaten to leave or get mad and turn the tables when they are trying to hide something. Let him leave and ask that he not think of returning until he is willing to sit down and talk truth.