well sex has been good i should i say, and we had some up and downs in our marriage but never infedilty and thats the truth, but lately my husband has pushed me away, or he stays up later than I do and the next morning I know he has taken care of his own business, should i be upset??? all he has to do is come to me but he rather himself than me at times, why si this, i mean i know men like to masturbate but come on no t all the time am I right or just fetching for something???????????????
2006-06-16 13:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by prettygirl new orleans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he an Internet junkie? Maybe you should check the sites he is visiting on the web. Has your husband recently purchased new underwear? That's almost a sure sign he's cheating. Don't threaten him and say you have proof if you don't. Keep your eyes open and follow him the next time he leaves for a few hours out of the house. Just keep your eyes (and your ears) open.
2006-06-16 13:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your best answer will include, wait for a comfortable time preferable before bed time, and confront him with your suspicions. Don't come right out and accurse him of cheating, even though, if anyone should know if he's been unfaithful, it would be you from knowing his ways over the years. Give him the chance to explain what's happening with the lack of intimacy, and it may work out that he does need something different for fulfillment. Only, ask him to let you be the one to take care of that thirst. If he's not seeing anyone else, he's going to be surprised and overwhelmed with joy. In which case, don't disappoint him. Good Luck and enjoy!
2006-06-16 14:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you put on weight or something? After 10 years you're probably no Brittany Spears. But you can manage to keep him satisfied. My parents have been married almost 30 years and their sex life is GREAT. But my mom is a giver. Try to avoid selfishness.
It might not have anything to do with sex though. Maybe he's just dissapointed in your poor grammar/spelling skills.
I'd take the planks out of my eye before starting to jimmy the splinter out of his.
2006-06-20 11:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After ten years of marriage, I would hope that things would not stay the same. Every year, there should be new challenges to overcome and accomplishments and cherished moments to share. This is just another part of your life that you need to work through together. You have to tell him exactly how you feel about it. If you haven't told him, he probably has no idea that you feel this strongly about it.
2006-06-16 14:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after 10 years of marriage can't you openly discuss this with him? Ask him point blank what is he up to and make a plan for things to change.And yes men love to masturbate it's not about you
2006-06-16 13:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by Claudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about you, but...
Have you gained weight? I hate to say it, but nothing kills romance faster. He'd probably never say anything either, but he's thinking it. Trust me. Men can't get excited about a woman unless she has a nice body.
Ok, I'll wait for the hate messages...
2006-06-16 14:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by retyull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be something physical. It could be medication that he is taking. He could be going through male menopause. How old are ya'll? Sometimes prostrate problems cause this too.
But do talk to him about it. Otherwise you will fight about it because you will be frustrated and hurt.
2006-06-16 13:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by That 70's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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He's having a fantasy. He enjoys that fantasy more than hearing you enjoy having sex. That's the truth. He's probably thinking about a man, cause if he were having sex with you, your womanly voice would mess it all up.
2006-06-16 13:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be having a fantasy while masterbating. spice it up. next time he does it ask him he wants help and just take over. 10 years is a long time of the same thing over and over.
2006-06-16 13:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. If I was you, I'd say he was cheating. Tell him you have proof he's cheating, if he really is then he'll fess up if he thinks you already know.
2006-06-16 13:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋