My little sister is 12 and pregnant...?

Question

My little sister is 12 and she is about 2 months pregnant, the major issue is a teacher is suspected of being the father..I believe he is 26-30 range. My sister wants to keep the baby. I think she should put it up for adoption and my mother doesn't want to press charges against the teacher! is it okay not to press charges because he will be the father, and should my sister keep the baby?

my sister wasn't raped..which is a good thing I guess, I consider it molestation if you ask me. I wish my sister hadn't done this, and that pervert needs to be put away.

Answer 1

You should tell the police and possibly social services too because there may be child support issues. If your sister wants to keep the baby she is going to need a lot of help financially because she is not old enough to hold a job. This is going to put a lot of financial and emotional stress on your family. Social services may be able to provide counseling or information on benefit programs that will help out. But before doing any of these things I strongly suggest that you tell another adult that you can trust about everything you've said here because this could ruin people's lives and reputations. Confirm that the teacher is the father if you can. Undoubtedly your sister is pregnant, but is she 100% sure that the father is the teacher? This situation could get really ugly. No matter if the teacher is the father or not, the fact that he is having a relationship at all with your sister is completely out of the question and he should at least be fired from his job and imprisoned for rape.

Answer 2

I would think that charges should be pressed. Your little sister is a minor and needs to be protected from a very sick man. Would you like him to knock up other 12 year old students? A man who does this kind of thing - it's not because he's committed or really loves her - anyone who really loved her would protect her and not let his hormones get in the way. He is a pervert and a sick man - other children deserve to be protected. I'm sorry but a teacher's role is reading, writing and artithemetic - not applied sexual techniques! It is very risky to have a pregnancy this young, many young girls bodies are not ready yet and they miscarry and I'm sure she hardly understands alot of things about life yet herself. If she has support and a strong adult who is supportive and loving to help train her - keeping the baby is a possibility. It doesn't matter who you are - every person missing mommy - grows up wondering who she is and where she is and why didn't she keep me. There no more important thing to a child than knowing mommy - regardless of who the primary caretaker really is. There's no bigger gift in life than to be a mommy - but in this case if a healthy pregnancy is possible - a TON of help is required and a totally supportive family to keep it. There is such a thing as an open adoption where mommy can keep in touch and if at all possible - if that is what you do - let mommy keep in touch with baby. When her child is 12 and she is 24 - things will be different. Giving baby away does not erase memories, longing, and the love between a mother and a child. There is a bond there - regardless of the circumstances.

Answer 3

Definitely you should press charges against your sisters' teacher. That is sexual harassment since he is an authority in your school plus your sister is a minor. How can we be so sure that it was not rape. They may have a relationship (I presume since your mother doesn't want to charge him or she is just concern with your reputation) but still your sister is too young to be on that situation. The reason why your mother doesn't want to keep the baby is probably because your sister can't take care of it since she too is a baby. Or probably financial wise, or again because of reputation. Your sister may want to keep the baby because of mother instict. Ask her is she can support her child all alone and still be in school and continue her life. It is the hardest decision she will make right now. But please charge the offender, this may not be the first time and we are not really sure if this will be the last. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well I do commend your sister for being brave enough to decide to have the baby and your mother for not pressuring her into an abortion. Though your sister did too, this man knew what he was doing and he at least needs some therapy. He definitely could have prevented this!!! I think your sister should keep the baby because like I said before, she knew what she was doing! She should though, give the baby up for adoption at birth, unless your mother is mentally and financially ready to take on another child. If your sister gives up the baby, it will be the murder of a selfless child who can't stick up for itself as well as it will teach her that running away from your responsibilities is just that easy when it's truly not.As far as charges when it comes down to it, he was wrong and something needs to be done to prevent this from happening again.... for all you know, it already has?????

Answer 5

I think that you need to press charges. Even if the teacher isn't the baby's father, if your sis had sex with him, he needs to be thrown in jail. They might go on about how in love they are, but the teacher, being an adult, should know better than to run around with a 12 year old girl. Its up to your sis if she keeps the baby, but your mother needs to contact police ASAP...

Answer 6

This teacher definitely needs to be charged! It isn't right to let him get away with this.
As for the child, it is untimately your family's decision but adoption may be the best way to go. Your family needs to think about what would be best for the child.
I mean, you sister is 12. She needs an education past that, and that will be harder to do with a baby.

Answer 7

if the teacher is the father he should be charged for child molestation and as far as keeping the baby she is 12 what kind of support does she have is someone going to help her this child didnt ask to be born so it should be given the upmost consideration. who will be there raising the baby and is your sister still in school what about her education i think maybe she should explore all her options and remember to put the best interests of the child first

Answer 8

well it depends on if he raped her or not. If he raped her, then it's obviously not the baby's falt so she should have it and put it up for adoption. If it was her decision to have sex with him or if the father is actually someone else, then she should keep the baby. Whatever happens though, she will need all the support she can get.

Answer 9

sue the teacher and put the kid up for adoption. Im really sorry to hear that, but I was adopted as an infant and have absolutely no knowledge of my birthparents. But I don't think I could handle hearing that my mom was any younger than I am now and my father was her teacher. Again I am really sorry.

Answer 10

OMG!...IMy mouth dropped so far down it wasn't even funny!I can't believe thet your 12 year old sis. had sex with an older man..a way older man!!I think your other should think about this and should press charges!Wouldn't that be like a rape?!!But I think your sister should definetly keep the baby and be a good mommy..