I have been with my hubby for 10 yrs now and I am not enjoying sex with him anymore. I fantasize about being with other men and find myself flirting with men. I dont want to cheat but I ned help. My hubby is a good man. I just need to get that spark back. Please help!
2006-06-16 13:21:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to spice things up, and be creative to bring back the old flame into your sex life. Sex is the frosting on the cake, but without it it could not be a cake right? So you need to take charge and buy new lingerie, toys, lotions, something to spice it up. You are fantasizing because you need excitement, you need something new... go away on a cruise or trip, and rekindle your love life! Fast!
2006-06-16 14:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by cccccccccccccccccccc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The spicing things up asap is a good idea, but telling him outright that you don't enjoy him sexually isn't. Men have an ego that won't heal when it comes to their manhood. He won't except that type of discussion without denial and pain. So, do what you can to ease your fantasies into your bedroom, and he may feel great about your idea, especially if the outcome is outstanding He may want more excitement too, but has no idea of how to mention it to you. Go on a limb, when he gets home, ask him if he'll go take care of an important issue with you. Take him to a decent hotel and make his legs weak. You can have your whip cream, oils, fruit, wine and whatever (toys) in a bag to go. Surprise him, and he won't ever forget how the sparks began to ignite again in the relationship. Good luck!
2006-06-16 22:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in public will work wonders. The cheap thrill of exhibitionist sex is a real turn on and was just the spark my wife and I needed. Try it.
2006-06-16 20:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there!!!
You need to sit down with your husband, let him now that your sexual level is increased and you need more out of it, your freaky and wanting to be turned out!! Allow you husband to share the needs of how you want to get down, you can't keep a deep freak hiddin it will come out one way or another, its best to talk about it and let him enjoy the new experience together
2006-06-16 20:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please confront him first. He may react differently at first but then realize the situation. If nothing happens after it then maybe get a divorce before you end up cheating. Cheating will only lead to you at court explaining why you did it and losing half your life.
And no I have never been married
2006-06-16 20:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by lil_pitchford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only two solutions, counselling first with both partners, or get out of the marriage. otherwise you will find the relationship becomes strained, especially if you decide to have a fling. there is no relationship without enjoyable sex.
2006-06-16 20:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy some new toys and experiment...and sometimes you do fall out of love. sit down and talk to him and tell him you are bored(in a nice way) and see if he would do some role playing with you or be up to trying new things... hope it works..good luck.
2006-06-16 20:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by uniquedobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband how u feel about having sex with him , maybe he can go out and buy thing for u to take to make things better
2006-06-16 20:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself do the daily things that you used to do when you were attracted to him,, its work,, but do it,, your feelings will come back in line with how they should be if you do these things.
Feelings are yours to manage,, not for you to be controlled by.
2006-06-16 20:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let sex be so important in your life. Love your husband for who he is, not for sex.
2006-06-17 05:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋