how do you know if someone likes you or they are just being nice?

Question

i'm confused the signs are there but nothing more

Answer 1

Do I take it you are female?
I can give you a few pointers if it is a straight male you are wondering about.
1: Its all in the eyes, they say (whoever they are I dont know) that the eyes are the gateway to your soul. Look into his eyes, hold the look for about two seconds and move your head slightly forward maybe an inch or two. If he pulls away at that point then it's probably a "no". If he is scared to make the first move then this move will usually instigate him to either land that kiss on your lips or to a lesser degree he may also move closer. Both these signs are a sure sign of yes and you can comfortably go for it. If he looked away before the 2 seconds then you need more investigation. If he frowns slightly then again it's a no.
2: Does he smile more when he is around you? Does he laugh more? Does he respond positively if you touch him? Then I would say yes.

Now one common mistake people make when trying to figure out if someone likes them is this. We look for signs that they do. You should be looking for signs that they don't. It may be a little negative in the way it works but I know from my own life that I flirt with people I dont like, sometimes even male friends. I often give signs that I like people who I dont but I NEVER give signs that I don't like someone who I really do like.
Examples
1: Does he talk about his love of Star Trek to you? No man in his right mind would let a girl who he likes know that he also likes Star Trek. It's asking for trouble. Does he turn over if you come into the room? Now I used Star Trek as an example only, naturally there are many variations of this but in its simplest format he does not want you to think of him as a geek/weirdo/loser whether he is or not.
2: Spend the evening together, take him to a dvd rental shop. While at the store pick out a girlie film (from past experience it's gonna be Dirty Dancing lol) Ask him if it's ok if you get this one. If he says no, he wants to watch an action movie then give him up, he is a lost cause. If he says yes then chances are he does like you (but ask yourself is he right man for you, I would have serious misgivings about a man with no opinions)
Ideally you would want him to say that dirty dancing is fine but he wants to get another too. If he chooses the other himself without wanting your opinion then personally I would let him go. If he asks for your opinion and seems interested in your answer then you are in there, grab yourself a bottle of wine because it could be a great night.
So the night is here, insist on watching his movie first, get close on the couch and let things happen. If there are scary or bloody parts of the film then this is a great opportunity to hide your head in his body (acting scared but looking for positive responses). Watch the film throughout and act interested at all times even if you hate it. Oh and don't ask stupid questions either.
So things have moved on, have you received the positive signals that you hope for? I hope so. Now it's time to watch dirty dancing (or whatever film you chose, must be romantic though)
Listen for the signals at all times too becausemen love the smell of women. All being well he will not be disinterested in the film, that will show that he is interested in you. If it gets to the end of the film and he has still not made a move then you need to be bold and do something. If he was waiting for the right opporunity then he has by now had lots of opportunity. Maybe he doesn't like you. Read the signs.
3: Ask yourself this question. What is the most intimate thing that two friend can do?
Ask 10 people that question you may well get 10 different answers. Share food, hug or talk. For me it's all in the telling of a secret. Not the actual secret but in the telling of it. This has happened twice in my experience and I could actually taste the electric passing between us. Lean in real close so you are almost kissing his ear and whisper it as if it is the most taboo subject ever, as you are whispering brush his ear a few times with your lips and direct your breath down his neck or back. He will not remember the actual secret, only the feeling washing over him as you are telling it.

All in all men don't understand women, they do things subconciously that women find attractive but when they actually try to appear attractive they fail miserably because the things they think are attractive are a turn off.

Ask him and you may not get the truth.

Of course there are many psychological ways to get him to like you if he doesn't already. Many gestures are subconcious and you need to start bringing them into the concious mind. Develop a set of hand gestures and use them to your advantage. Whenever you are talking, use them. If he is depressed and telling a sad story, keep constant eye contact and do something with your fingers or hand. He will subconciously marry his sad feelings with this particular gesture. Only use this gesture when he is feeling the same and gradually ease him off that conversation subject with gestures developed for happier times. It must be gradual because you dont want this depression being associated with a happy gesture you have spent a month developing.
If he is happy and laughing use a completely different one and use this gesture when you want to get close to him, he will see this gesture and associate it with all them times he has been happy and realise that all them times he was happy he was happy with you.
Develop a gesture that can pull him out of his depression and cheer him up.
Eventually (after a month or two) he will realise that while he is around you he is a happier person than when he is around his friends. Little does he know that you have used psychological techniques to make him believe this.

Anyway the amount of time I have been typing I reck'n this topic is probably closed by now lol.

Hope it works for you.

Dave.

Answer 2

I like being nice nearly 24/7, but sometimes i feel i shouldn't be nice all the time because then you become like a doormat for people to walk over and take advantage of.

Answer 3

Its confusing as is, but I can say that when someone is being nice their face expression is more relaxed, and when a person is interested and is liking you they start to talk about you and ask questions do lots of favors than usualy a person would do.

Answer 4

If they just are coming up to u and paying u attention without u paying them attention they like u but if u pay them attention first its a 50/50 chance they are being nice and/or they like u cause they might not think u like them so sometimes they'll wait 4 u first

Answer 5

Do they stare at your boobs all the time or check out your butt or want to touch you a lot ie tickle...


Or just ask in a way they know its ok and you wont drop them


or if shy, or awkard around you

Answer 6

Look at thier body language. if they aren't really listening to you when you talk to them then it means they don't really like you. I suggest getting a book on basic pyschology to find out some other kinds of body languages on whether someone like you or not.

Answer 7

theres no sure way,especially if you don't know them very well. but i always say if there friends are nice to you, then they like you! look into there eyes if they are looking straight into yours then they're genuine, coz if they wern't, then they wouldn't be able to look you in the eyes. good luck with wot ever it is your trying to figure out!

Answer 8

someone who likes you will put you before their mates & football.They will go out of their way for you,for example they will buy you flowers.They will plan your night out,take decisions for you & send you sloppy cards & generally will appear interested in you & what you,ve done during the day.

Answer 9

just look at them if you notice they are nice to you...if they do the same to the others,that means (s)he is just being nice. or vice versa.

Answer 10

look them right in the eye when your talking to them...you'll know your answer in a split second.....it is true "the eyes do not lie"