What's the best way to tell someone their husband is cheating?

Answer 1

Well, first of all, i would keep my mouth shut unless this someone is not a good friend of yours, because as the saying goes, "mind your own business". But if this person is a close friend, and you feel that she is entitled to know, then i would break it to her out directly. Dont beat around the bush, just call her up, tell her you need to talk to her about something (make sure it's face to face, telephone makes it worse), and just plain out tell her. This is the best way, because she will see you are being serious, and taking a slow aproach can be bad because she will either get frustrated, or angry.

Answer 2

There is no best way. Before you say anything I hope you know that you will be enemy #1 to both the wife & the husband. Even though it is probably the right thing to do (I know I would want to know) you can figure your friendship or whatever it is, is over. Have you considered going to the husband instead & telling him you know in the hopes he will tell her himself? That's what I think I would do. That way if it doesn't work out between the spouses you may still be able to retain a friendship with the wife without being the heavy. Been there myself.

Answer 3

Claudia...as I see it, there is no best way to tell someone that the person they love is cheating. If you are a friend of theirs, and you know it as a fact and not just suspicion, talk to the wife...woman to woman heart to heart but be prepared for backlash. My first husband was a cheater and I know all too well the pain of finding out can cause. It's far easier to deny the facts than to face them. But, if the man in question, you are a close, caring friend of his wife, I would think she would rather be told by a caring friend rather than potentially be confronted by the mistress especially if something should happen and a baby develop as that is another concern. I know there are no easy answers, but I have the feeling you will do what you feel best and be a strong sisterly shoulder to lean on. I'm going to assume you aren't the mistress in the process of answering your question...because if you are...hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

Answer 4

First things first.....if your significant other was cheating on you would you want to hear it FROM THIS FRIEND that you're about to spring this news on? Are you that close with her so that she won't wonder if you have an alterior motive to be lying to her? If you feel confident that she would want to hear this news FROM YOU, then make sure that you have proof, because she might not accept what you are telling her and may end up not believing you. When you get all your ducks in a row, sit her down some place private where you're sure that you won't be interupted or distracted and tell her the truth. Be honest and direct. Who knows, you might just be confirming what she's been suspecting...Good Luck!

Answer 5

I don't think you should just come right out and tell her but get her to at least start looking at things to see if he is. That way she finds out on her own.
For example, check his clothes when he gets home late (any lipstick, perfume?), watch the phone bill to see if there are any unknown ph numbers that have been called frequently.
You could bring up the subject of fidelity in general and then ask her if she ever thought her husband had cheated on her.. depending on her answer will tell you what next to say. But don't flat out tell her, she won't appreciate it and will probably NOT believe you, then you've lost a friend.

Answer 6

First are you sure he is cheating? you are not the one he is cheating with right. if this is a close friend and you do not want to hurt her you may need to let her see for her self. as in if you know where he will be get her to go where he will be. It will hurt her but if you can not do that then sit down and have a talk. It is never easy to find out the man you are married to is a first class jerk. Good luck just remember to be there when she needs a friend.

Answer 7

Well Claudia I would have to say set down with that person and tell her that you seen her Husband cheating on her, take and get some proof and show her the proof. Unless its you whicth I know its not because you sound like a pretty nice woman.

Good Luck,
Boray

Answer 8

If i wasn't married i sooo would tell them if their husband is cheating, and now that i am married i wish they would tell me if my husband is cheating, but in my country people dont have the guts to tell their friend that her husband is cheating. They shut their mouth and pretend they never saw anything, and they sure would tell other people around, but not me. I WOULD PROBABLY BE THE LAST TO KNOW.

Answer 9

There is no good way to tell someone their spouse is cheating! If you know it for a fact you may be better of "leading" them to the situation rather than telling them. There will only be hurt feelings if you tell them straight out.

Answer 10

I just couldn't why do people make it their right to tell someone their husband is cheating, some times it could backfire on the messenger.