What to do when you're begining to not like a child?

Question

My g/f has a tennager that constantly whines and begs for everything, the teen doesn't take no for an answer. The child is also loud and always likes to play, doesn't act like most teen in their age bracket. I'm begining not to like the child and I try to tell the mother that the child is spoiled but she says otherwise. We have a beautiful relationship, but i'm waaaay past my breaking point, Please help!!!

Answer 1

I feel for you my friend ... I'm somewhat in the same position. I am a step parent and the ONLY way that you will get past this is bonding with the child on your own. You cannot talk to the other parent, because they WON'T see the same things that YOU do. If this relationship is important to you, you must enter through the child. Try and find things that you have in common that you can do together. Take the child aside and express how you feel about their behavior while you are talking in private ... it's the only way. It worked for me to let my step child know that the behavior was spoiled and selfish and that I didn't like it ... sometimes when it is expressed from the heart and she sees and hears it from you saying it calmly, you might see a little change.

Answer 2

she will not give her teen away for you. so i think you need to find someone that has no children because mothers and children will always have a bond. also you can't think that you dislike of the child will rub off on her that is her kid spoiled or not. DON'T MEAN TO SOUND HARD BUT JUST MOVE ON THERE IS OTHER WOMAN OUT THERE!

Answer 3

Just stay OUT OF IT unless your planning on putting a ring on her finger and that would be a mistake too at this point. It's obvious your relationship is not as great as you say, with problems like this it can get the best of you quickly (if you let it).

Stay out of it, lessen your visits a little, and get something to do with your spare time and enjoy the relationship for what it is ( it has potential for major problems)

Answer 4

Try talking to your girlfriend about it and talk about it good without blowing up and getting mad, talk reasonable about everything except for you beginning to not like the child. See if that helps out any, if not then I suggest getting some time with yourself to blow off some steam or possibly getting a new girlfriend.

Answer 5

I would tell the girlfriend that I don't like her kids attitude and that I would prefer to not have the kid around when we hang together. Plus I would tell the kid to watch the attitude while I'm around. Most likely, I would be told to get lost. If so, fine. If not, try to be more tolerant and offer guidance to the kid and mother.

Answer 6

if you plan on marrying this woman then you better start bonding with this child. Play scrabble with her...take her to a game...the movie...accompany her to school. Make jokes with her...be light with her....let her know you care for her. If this dosent work...run like hell and dont look back....else it'll haunt you for the rest of your marriage.

Answer 7

tell ur GF that she needs to do someething about her child if she does not want to ruin your beautiful relationship. She needs to discipline her own child. The child might have ADD.

Answer 8

Slap her and tell her to shut up shes a spoiled rotten punk kid and should be living in the streets.

Answer 9

Please try to keep your patience. I believe that if you hang in there, you and the child will eventually bond. You just have to finally see the good in the child, and when you do that, you'll be able to get to know them. It takes patience, though!

Answer 10

You should never date biatches with children. She will always choose her little crotch-monster over you, no matter how old or spoiled the little bloodsucker is.