when she is around us she is a perfect lady, quiet and seems to be straight. when asked she denies it however i found several conversations that i aquired from her email where she is actually dating several women including one who is probably 15 yrs older than her.
2006-06-16 12:41:39 · 9 answers · asked by deepthoughts38 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think the only thing you should be worried about is her having a relationship with an older person. She's way to young to be with any one that old.Her sexuality is her chose. No matter what you stand by her. Theres nothing wrong with it.I was brought up in a family that was very prejudice (however you spell it) and now I'm married to a asian guy and we have 3 kids together and I have to uncles that are gay ,but you would never know it.They keep there personal business at home. You need to be there for the people you love.But you also need to protect them. Now dating someone that much older is where you have to step in and guide her.You can't change someones sexuality.Even if it's hard for you to except you have to.Well good luck!Make sure your supportive!Just be there!
2006-06-16 12:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter if she's gay or not? I mean really. You still love her right?
Besides sometimes its just a phase for some people. If she really is gay and isn't just experimenting beucase she had a bad experiance with some stupid guy then she'll tell you when shes ready. Don't push her. As open as america today is, its still a touchy subject and its a hard thing to face at her age. Sometimes its easier to pretend you aren't until you really grow into yourself.
Maybe she's worried that her family wont love her anymore, or that people won't like her anymore, or that everyone will treat her like she has a disease, or that people will treat her like she's less than human for what she is.
Or maybe its a phase and she just doesn't want to talk about it. I mean I'm not trying to say the being gay itself is a phase, more that some people have experimental ones.
I mean most people don't really know what they want at 14. Shes just trying to figure her self out. Keep an eye on her and as long as shes being safe and not running off to meet anyone in person or anything like that don't interfere unless its nessacery. Besides if you pressure her about it she'll just keep pretending shes not if she is. And that can lead some people ugly places.
2006-06-16 20:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would sit her down and tell her that I would love her no matter whether she was straight or gay. However, I would also tell her that she needs to keep an open mind about her sexuality until she is older, that although she might feel strongly that she is gay, she should admit that possibly in the future, she might feel differently. I would also tell her that it's not right for anyone to date someone that much younger than them, and that if it was a man dating her, he would be arrested! I would just try to tell her that I would accept her no matter what, but you want her to be careful with herself, and try to only date people around her own age.
2006-06-16 19:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by dawn a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your granddaughters sexual orientation is none of your business. The dating of older women may not be appropriate and that should be stopped but other than that a gay granddaughter can still be a perfect quiet lady.
2006-06-16 20:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Claudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in the "experiential age" I'm 19 now, and i never went through that type of thing. But I believe she probably has a low self-esteem and needs lots of attention. May be you should sit her down and actually talk to her, ask her what's going on in life? school? Let her know that you want her do good/well in life, tell her how much you care.
2006-06-16 19:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by SuzzyLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child of 14 is in the experimentation stage. She'll find solid footing in the next few years.
She may actually turn out to be gay - or not.
Either way, it's too early in her life to pin her with a label.
2006-06-16 19:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is happy and safe, leave her be. You do need to talk to her about having "relationships" with older people however.
He being gay does not reflect on you in any way, shape or form. It's not bad parenting, or lack of morals, it's just the way some people are, but they are still people and deserve to be treated with respect.
2006-06-16 19:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I THINK YOU SHOULD LET HER BE HERSELF.SHE IS GOING TO GROW UP THE WAY SHE WANT TO . LIKE IT OR NOT....SHE'S YOUR GRANDDAUGHTER YOU SHOULD LOVE HER FOR HER NOT HER SEXUAL PREFERENCE. AS FOR DATING SOMEONE 15YEARS OLDER THAN HER AND HER BEING A MINOR THERE'S A PROBLEM THERE MORALLY AND LEGALLY. THAT YOU SHOULD GET INVOLVED IN..THEN THERE'S THAT INVASION OF PRIVACY THING WITH YOU READING HER EMAIL WITH OUT PERMISSION....I KNOW YOUR JUST WATCHING OUT FOR HER BEST INTEREST, BUT COME ON GIVE HER SOME PRIVACY BEFORE SHE SHUTS YOU OUT COMPLETELY..TALK TO HER TRY TO UNDERSTAND HER TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND DON'T JUDGE HER DECISION, BUT GUIDE HER...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-06-16 19:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by DRE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not right.... A girl that young shouldn't be dating anyone that old!! You need to put a stop to that!
2006-06-16 19:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋