Would it just make it worse?

Question

This is sort of a hard question to phrase. I know a lot of gay people say they are born gay(and as a gay male I say this too), and a lot of straight people say that we choose it. A lot of gays find that when they say this, they just want to walk up to those people and rip their vocal cords out(well, I do at least). But let's say it's proven that we are born gay. Won't that just make all those narrow minded straight people be like "Well, see, you've got a disorder" or some crap like that. And would you prefer them to keep saying you've got a gay disorder or that you chose to be gay?

Goldwing, thanks to you I now know I am not gay. I just had an eppifany(sp). How do I know I'm not gay? Easy! I don't have by far the best looks(but that's just me saying), the best taste, the best clothes(unless the best clothes come from Walmart), the best job(McDonalds), the best house(trailer), the best car(don't even have one), the best mates(but they are pretty cool), and I sure as hell can't dance.

Answer 1

A lot of people are never going to accept gays as being the way Nature meant them to be. If it's proven, scientifically, that gays are born that way then (as you said) there will likely be excuses made such as gene mutations or some such. You'll never be able to totally avoid small minded people. Thankfully they are becoming fewer and fewer as people (in general) become more open minded and accepting of others, including those who are not just like they are.

Answer 2

you are coming from a trap made for you by Straights. Wise up. Gays are God's chosen people...there are only about 10 % of the population chosen, so it is an elite club to begin with. Gays have by far the best looks, the best taste, the best clothes, the best jobs, the best houses, the best cars, the best men (and women) as mates, and, to add to all this, they can dance! Now, considering all this, if you were straight, wouldn't you be bitter also??? Yes, I would be too. Is it any wonder that straights spend so much valuable time condeming Gays? They try to make themselves look better by trying to bring us down..it just doesn't work if you don't let them. Also, haven't you noticed that what is a Gay style today will be on the heads, backs, feet of every straight guy out there...in about 5 years??? Hmmmm..they ARE slow of mind and taste, but they finally make it....by the time the fashion is far passe'

Answer 3

I think it really doesn't matter what anyone says or tries to label you. I am not gay nor do I really approve of it but I would never say you were born that way or somethings wrong with you. I believe for every person that chooses to come and say they are gay is because something inside is telling them thats how they feel and people should know its not a bad thing to express what you feel. I also thing "straight" people that say stuff like that just do not understand why people are "that way". It's full of labels and stereotypes and i've known guys who I know were gay all their life. I've also known men to be straight and then go gay because it just felt right to them. So is it that they're born gay and barely realize it? Or is it that they had enough of the other sex and it just doesn't feel right to them anymore? I think there's a reason behind everyone's sexuality. The childhood, maybe abuse, maybe love, maybe anything that encountered their life as a young person has influenced their preference. But i think you should just be who you are and not care what others think. Be happy and Be you. Thats what matters most.

Answer 4

It is a loosing battle to try and convince other people of the reason you are gay. I'm gay and know that I was born that way. To say that it is a disorder, disease or choice is illogical as far as I understand things. There are many different types of people in this world. Some you can reason with, some you can't. There are people that you could show them the most obvious facts and figures and not be able to sway their opinion in the least. On the other hand, there are honest, free-thinking people that are not blinded to the truth. People grounded in reality.

What I do is to not worry about narrow minded tools that I could never do anything about anyway. I am content with the way I am and no one will change that.

Answer 5

I would like to clarify something for the 1000,000. time . There was a study done in the early 90s by John Hopkins on gay and Lesbian genetics , it was found that gay men and women are born gay . According to the study we have a certain gene that heterosexual men and women do not have . Now the really interesting part of the study proves that we also have higher levels of certain hormones that everyone has , but the higher the level of the hormone the more likely you are to be gay , thus lower levels produce bisexual and so on . Now to answer your question , I guess I have a disorder if that is what heterosexuals want to call it . But according to the study it isn't a disorder because everyone has the hormones they just have a much lower level of it .

Answer 6

Both are equally bad. I am not gay, but I have no problem with people who are. For someone to say you have a gay disorder is disgusting. The definition of disorder: An ailment that affects the function of mind or body. To be gay is not an ailment and gay people don't look or think much different than everyone else. For someone to say that being gay is a choice is like saying you can choose the color of your eyes. Both of these statements are vile, disgusting, rude, heartless, and false.

Answer 7

I believe people are born gay, bisexual, whatever they happen to be...there are some cases where people seem to switch, but if it wasn't in them somewhere all along, I don't think they would. In my gender studies class, I read about how individuals are formed...it is a full spectrum of masculine and feminine and everyone falls somewhere in the middle. Totally straight is in the middle and so on and so forth. I happily fall somewhere in the middle but leaning more to the masculine end of the spectrum, therefore making me a bisexual female who tends to date mostly men...does that make any sense? Bottom line should be that people are people and no one is alike and no one should put these kind of questions or accusations on others because they are different.....who cares what others think, they're just ignorant. People who can't understand that diversity exists are the ones with a disorder!!

Answer 8

Straight male here.

I think that there may be something to the notion that a person has a pre-disposition to be gay. I just don't believe that it is good for the long term benefit of society to act on it or accept it. But I do not believe that it is any worse than cohabitation straight or gay, and out of wedlock (permanent committed relationship) births. Much of what I have previously commented on is seen as sinful by most religions, but I think it makes a fair amount of sense in terms of "Natural law" as well. I believe in the man / woman, pair for life model for the best model for the long term benefit of society. Some of my gay or ambiguous acquaintances struggle terribly with the social, and spiritual difficulties.

I also think that a growing number of people are experimenting with it as they have become bored by an overindulgence in hetero-sex.

Answer 9

As a straight female, I will say that relationships are hard enough without choosing a lifestyle that society frowns upon. However, as a mother who has witnessed the heartbreak caused by the true confessions of a latent homosexual son-in-law, I have to believe that it is a choice. Upon further examination of his childhood, I learned that he always had access to his parent's porn collection, which probably contributed to the abherration in his sexual orientation. He also knew no "daddy love" and was smothered by his mother's affections in daddy's absence. I believe it's all in the conditioning and nurturing. If you have been raised to think that it's okay to be gay; then it's a much easier choice to make. My only suggestion is that you be very careful to figure it out before breaking someone's heart. It's very devastating to everyone concerned.

Answer 10

you r gay some people r skinny fat bo legged cock eyed injured pretty badley tall short have diordes gay different religions black white asian chinese japanese ect have asma desiese dumb blind deaf racest and alot of other things but thats ok like i said u r gay u might have made the choice or born with it i dont care and u shouldent either dont let stuff bother u because god put us here on earth to be different if u've "noticed" no one is alike not even twins and if everybody was it would be a boring world so u need to suck it up and get moving because we know ur r a sweet guy thankss for giving me a question see u later player