what im trying to say is can your love life still grow if you found out that your husband of 6 yrs cheated, and is truely sorry for this, not to mention it was the 1st time he cheated, or should i just not waste my time. did i mention the fact that the girl he cheated on me with got pregnant???????
2006-06-16 11:50:37 · 18 answers · asked by jayrok027 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
answer to everyones question? when i left i could not take him because he didnt have a visa to travel to the us, and the girl knew he was married she knows me, when i moved back to jamaica she tried to do everything to get me to leave my hubby so that she can have him, but despite of everything she told me she never told me that she had sex with him, when we got here to us, thats when he told me what had happenedwhen i left for 8 mos, i know i was wrong but i really deserve that?
2006-06-16 13:01:21 · update #1
I'm so very sorry!!!!!!! My friend went through the same thing about 5 years ago. As a matter a fact she was pregnant when it happen and both kids are approx. two months apart. She says it the hardest thing to go through, but they are working on it and are working on having there second child. It really depends on both of ya. I couldn't say I would leave my husband. Good Luck!
2006-06-16 11:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it is possible - but what do you both want out of this relationship? Have you truly sat down and discussed openly what both of you want from each other.
Try marriagebuilders.com - look for the Infidelity section. Read the sections and try what is stated. At least it is a start.
I suggest a some point that you seek marriage counseling. There are a lot of issues that need to be dealt with including how the child will be raised.
2006-06-16 12:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband cheated on me it was out the door for me. And believe me I am glad I did it. Right now I am happily married and I never could have experienced real love if I had not of left him. So don't be afraid to leave because you deserve it.
2006-06-16 11:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be some love but the trust factor would be like completely gone. Now he got this other lady pregnant and just imagine if you two stick together you will be seeing the child and it will always remind you of how he cheated on you. Think you could handle that?
2006-06-16 12:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love can happen still. If you do not have children with this man, leave him, you deserve the best and if the other woman got pregnant, it is not going to be easy and you may end up wasting your life , on a man who can not be honest with you.
2006-06-16 11:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by elskar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband was to cheat and to get anthoer woman pregnant which means he would have had unprotected sex, well that would be it for him. I would never be able to trust him again, forget about love, because without trust and honesty, there can be no love..at least for me that is the case.
If he can do it once, then he will probably do it again.
But this is a hard one, you have to go with your heart, and if you are able to forgive and trust him again, well then more power to you.
Good Luck,
2006-06-16 11:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by Les 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is she having the kid or is she terminating the pregnancy? He did create quite a mess. Of course you can forgive him if you love him, but then you have to deal with this pregnancy. This child must not be punished. Just don't put up with any other behavior by your husband. It's tough. Sorry you are going through this.
2006-06-16 11:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by ocean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say unless yr in that spot i fell as if husband of 13yr was to do that to me i would feel so so hurt and if he got her pregnant it would never let me forget what he had done nor could i for get there's a kid a baby coming into this world that's hes and hers that would hurt so much more god for bid he ever does something like that not only would he be hurting a marriage but are kids life and family i don't think i could for give .but if you have it goes to show how big yr love for him is god bless,
2006-06-16 12:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by sunshinegal0117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can love someone who has cheated on you. It may be very hard to forgive them, but you can still love them and not want to be without them. The pain of being betrayed can go away in time. It will not be easy and you will have to reach deep inside of you, possibly, for the forgiveness that you will need to go on, but you can do it. I still love my first wife who was unfaithful and left me, and that was over 30 years ago. But forgiveness allowed me to love her this long.
2006-06-16 12:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know this is the first time, maybe this is the first time he got caught.
I had a feeling that your husband is a very good player, you only find out this because he had made a big mess and need you to clean it up. if I were you, I will leave him as soon as I knew the truth, but that is me.
2006-06-16 11:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋