iam a 32yr old married woman,and my husband has cheated so many times,so i had cheated on him a few times to get even,before i cheated i tryed to talk to him and tryed to make him go to counsling with me but he would just turn it into a fight and wouldnt go for help,i also told him i was going to leave him but i couldnt get myself to do it,I have kids and i dont work and i have no where to go,my moms house is way to small she only has 2 bed rooms and 1 is hers and the other is my brothers.he has been talking to girls on the computer lately,and he is starting to get a little abusive,he tells me if i leave he will get a job off the books so he cant pay child support and he says i cant get another guy even if we devorce cause he will kill the guy and hurt me bad.my guy friend is coming out next week from C.A. to visit and he wants to hang out and talk to me,we've fulled around about 2yrs ago and i dont know if i should hang out with him or not,what should i do about this whole thing?
2006-06-16 11:37:34 · 7 answers · asked by jenna leigh j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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Yes, you need to leave. And get a restraining order. I know it will be hard to move on with two kids, but trust me, after being in a realationship similiar to yours, it will be the best for you. And remember the kids.
2006-06-16 11:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is starting to become abusive.. you need to get out now. I know it is hard to leave him but take help where you can get it. Get the cops involved. If you know that he has a job off the books.. you can get the IRS involved. He will have to pay child support and probably alimony. Use that money to help you get your life together. Go to school and get some sort of vocational degree-- medical assistant something like that. Stay at your mom's until then. For right now, its important to get out of the situation it sounds like it will only get worse.... as far as your friend goes... be careful if you want to hang out with him go ahead, but don't have sex. If you get a divorce you need to prove that you were more loyal than your husband was. Don't give the judge cause to award the children to him.
2006-06-16 18:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only a kid but I think that the best thing to do right now is to pray. The Lord will answer you and will save you from this nightmare. He has a plan for you along with anyone else. Other than that I don't know what else you could do but if your husband is abusing you, you need to report it to the police immediately.
2006-06-16 18:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out he is trying to use a scare tactic with you dont let him see that it is working. if he quits his job to skirt not paying child support he can go to jail for failure to maintain support. if your friend isnt afraid of him then let him handle that situation but when you do this make sure you and your husband are not together...
2006-06-16 18:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order first, then meet this guy at another town!
2006-06-16 18:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a women's shelter and express your concerns - you don't have to stay there, but they can give you a game plan.
2006-06-16 18:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce the bastard!! and get a restraining order
2006-06-16 18:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate_thunda2800 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋