after my husband cheeted a child developed from another woman?

Question

i told him that if he wants to keep me he has to forget about the mistake he made behind my back that means forgetting about the child, and everything that goes along with it, am i wrong in saying so, weve been married for 6 years, he cheated last year because i left the country for 8 mos on business. he just found out that this ho was pregnant by him and recently concieved a baby boy shes not in this country with us nor is the baby she in jamaica, just wanna know if im wrong because i cant live with the fact that my husband of 6 years concieved a child by someone else, if i havwe to accept it than we are finished, because i love him to much to have these feelings keep haunting me, hes willing to forget. answers please desperate

Answer 1

I can see how this situation would be devastating, however how can you tell him to turn his back on his own child? This is an innocent victim that you are insisting has nothing to do with their own father. You need to figure out if you can forgive this act of betrayal and if you can forgive, not forget, then seriously think about these ramifications. This is a child that needs his or her father and deserves his or her father. What if you were that child? Think about someone other than yourself and your own pain....your tryingto inflict pain on this child for it's entire life, shame on you.

Answer 2

I would not be working a job that took me away from my spouse for 8 months --- that's asking for trouble ! Now, the trouble has produced fruit and you want him to abandon the child he helped to create --- that's not going to change the facts ----- (you were gone 8 months and he had an affair) --- which shows that your marriage can't survive under the current situation --- you two need to be together ---no more 8 months seperations --- you say you can't live with the fact he conceived a child with another woman --- but that's exactly what you're doing everyday you're alive ---living with the fact he has a child by someone else --- out of sight doesn't mean out of mind--- if it did, you wouldn't of posted what's going on in your life.....forgive and work out the child support and visitations so that child can know it's father ---

Answer 3

its a sad thing, but how do you know if the girl knew he was married or not? she may not be a ho and this child didn't ask to be concieved...he is a blessing no matter what. The only thing you should be concerned with is the fact your husband does not love you. He wouldn't have cheated. Face the facts and the whole picture...not your jealousy or anger. nomatter what you feel...remember every child needs his mother AND father and maybe not together, but the child needs his father-deny a relationship with your husband-deny a relationship with the girl-but don't deny the child.

Answer 4

He has a responsibility to care for that child and support him. Children are innocent in the situation and should not have to suffer for the parent's problems. He should not abandon the child.

Answer 5

Put your feelings aside, that little baby did not ask for this. That baby deserve a father.

Personally, my husband cheats on me, he is out the door. End of subject.

Answer 6

He should do the right thing and take care of the child. If you feel you can accept his fathering this child, then stay with him. If you can't accept it, then leave, but don't hold it aganist the child.

Answer 7

he is the father ..plain and simple...let him be a daddy...also you were away 8 mos for business?why be married if you are apart so long...take him with you or leave

Answer 8

it take two to make a baby she probably didn't force him into sex....so you got to consider that its not fair for a child to not no its father...he should have remembered he was married...

Answer 9

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I agree with SimplyLovely and jeepwife4ever. I'd leave him.