I have been married for a year and a half and I am just no happy in the marriage my husband does a lot for me and for some reason I am just not happy I have thought of getting a divorce because I am not happy. He has not cheated or done anything of that nature I am just not happy I try to act like it but not possible. What should I do??
2006-06-16 11:22:23 · 9 answers · asked by ~Ms Eli~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People usually get divorced for major problems that the reasons for the divorce go practically without saying. The reasons for your unhappiness could be depression, and you ought to consider the possibility of seeking counseling for yourself. Do you have a career that makes you happy? There are other things that could be causing you discontentment, other than just your marriage, and that should be addressed too.
2006-06-16 11:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think many newlywed women go through a phase like this. It is disillusionment that marriage is not what they thought it was going to be. So they become unhappy. They have no good reason for it, they just are unhappy. Before rushing to get a divorce, I, too, recommend that you find some counseling. If you are open and let your feelings and thoughts about your marriage out, you may discover that you have many reasons to stay married. You have already given a bunch of them about you husband.
I feel somewhat qualified to give this advice since I married a young (18-year-old) girl who I think became disillusioned like this. She missed friends and the life she'd led before. She left me after a year-and-a-half, but life did not prove so great. She ended up in a convent to be a nun, but didn't really fit. What became of her then, I don't know. It's a long story.
2006-06-16 18:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to see a marriage counselor first. Well, you can start by telling him that you just are not happy in this marriage and maybe try a separation first. Then if all of this doesn't work, just go ahead and file for divorce.
2006-06-16 18:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way about my husband, and trust me!, there's no easy way to do it. I spent 2 years of my life waiting for the right time to "walk away" because no matter how hard I tried, I just wasn't happy.But, one day I decided that I couldn't live my life the way it was and a told him... walking away is the hardest part. He cried, I cried, I was so sad that I almost took it back because I "felt bad," but you know what... it was the best thing I could've done and I wouldn't change my decision for anything. I feel so... relieved. Yes, there are still times where I miss him... but I keep reminding myself why I left and I tell myself everyday that I can't go back because I would just be unhappy all over again... You only live once... you don't have to settle for anything less than what you deserve. And you deserve to be happy, everyone does. Sometimes it's hard to do the right thing, but no one ever said life was easy. If it was, we'd live in a perfect world...
2006-06-16 19:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are not happy with yourself. I think a marriage counselor or pastor could help you find why you are not happy. You don't want to separate and regret you let the most wonderful blessing go. You really want to think this over before taking any actions that could damage the relationship. Hope things work out.
2006-06-16 18:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you are feeling. You all should try to work through this together. If you talking to him don't work seek help from a marriage counselor. You may be depressed with some other aspect causing problems with your marriage.
2006-06-16 18:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first of all need to give yourself some time to really find out what it is your not happy about. The truth is your looking to someone else to make you happy, and the only one that can do that is you. You have to make you happy. If your having trouble figuring out what is going to make you happy consider seeing a therapist, it's always nice to have someone you can talk to freely.
2006-06-16 18:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you want out of your marriage
2006-06-23 05:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a marriage councilor
2006-06-16 18:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Brozink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋