2006-06-16 11:09:11 · 9 answers · asked by rimorchione 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sometimes forget we talked about something, or I do something she's told me not to do in the past. She calls it "annoyingly stupid."
2006-06-16 11:11:57 · update #1
you're not stupid.. she probably doesn't really mean that, she's just extremely frustrated. So you're probably just annoying and that's not so bad.
Anyway, most men I've met are like you. Even the best of them, like my husband. It gets frustrating when he forgets, but he's not stupid. Neither are my brother-in-laws, and they forget too.The only ones that I've known to actually remember details were some good friends who were gay. But even then some forget...
Anyway, tell her that to not call you stupid, because you aren't and she knows that. I don't know why men don't remember the fine details... and it does hurt sometimes that my hubbie doesn't remember, it's like he's not listening to me at all.
take care!
2006-06-16 11:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by ATerribleIdea 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually listen to your wife or only pretend to? If your wife has ask you to refrain from talking about something private or personal and you are embarrasing her, stop and think before you speak. There are some people in the world who talk only to hear the sound of their voices. Don't be one of these. It is annoyingly stupid.
2006-06-16 18:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid, just a bad memory. Try writing things down, make "honey-do" lists for yourself. I'm sure that part of the problem is that you forget that you said you'd take care of something and then forget about it. It might take some of the pressure off. Good luck!
2006-06-16 18:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is just like we done in school..
Write it down on paper 1000 times ""I'm not annoyingly stupid""
Then let her read it bet it will work
2006-06-16 18:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That attitude from your wife seems like it's tied into her low self-esteen (what you termed paranoia) that you mentioned in an earlier question. Her general distrust seems to extend to the idea that you want to make her annoyed. Given her warped outlook about herself, you can expect a certain degree of suspicion about your motives for doing anything that inconveniences her.
You can try some of the things that other people answering your question have mentioned, but improving her self-esteem to the point where she understands it's not *always* about her is the ultimate answer. I know that low-self esteem and self-centeredness would seem to be polar opposites, but from first-hand experience, I can tell you that such people are always looking for and inventing slights consistent with their self -image, in order to re-inforce it.
2006-06-19 19:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore it. maybe she's mad at something else and needs to vent so she takes it out on you. There really is nothing you can do other than tell her to stop saying that. but just talk with your wife about this, you don't need to be here.
2006-06-16 18:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Man_With_No_Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds awful. Tell her how her put downs make you feel. You can't help forgetting things sometimes.
2006-06-16 18:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Baconbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a. Don't admit to the Yahoo world that your wife thinks that way about you.
b. Dump her.
2006-06-16 18:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Buster Van Buren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband does the same exact thing she will learn to deal with it like I have
2006-06-16 18:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋