...Youre boyfriend is more expirienced than you? He is 2 years older than me and his age is about the time most people have sex... he wants me to but i refused, im not being pressured though thats the good thing! But anyways he wants to have sex and Im afraid if I dont soon he will do something stupid like find someone who will have sex with him because I know plenty of girls who would... should I just do it or should i not and trust him when he says he wont cheat on me?
2006-06-16 11:05:28 · 18 answers · asked by Britt 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
why be with someone who want wait for you, if he wants to have sex then go let him, he isnt worth it, if he cant respect you enough to wait until you are ready, then he doesnt deserve you. you dont need himim proud ofyou that you have desiced to wait and not givin to him.stay strong, we need more girls like you to end teen pregnacy. you are the difference. yo uwill change your life and be up there in life because of what you are doing now. i know it is alot and may not make sense but you are smarter than you think. you will understand later , just keep doing what you are doing. your parents would be proud of you. ifhe leaves then you know thats all he wanted from you, sex.good luck.
2006-06-16 11:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You are at a point in your life that you are easily influenced by the people around. Being a virgin is something to be proud of. If he can't respect you enough for wanting to take care of your body, then you really don't need to be with him. Sex is not just something you get over with, like a punishment.9 times out of 10 , you are not going to be wit h this guy forever. There are many people other than him out there that will respect your wishes and your body, so if he wants what is out there let him catch the stds and stis out there, just don't let him do it when you are with him. Let him go , if he feel like he needs to cheat then all he wanted to do was have sex with you anyway.You should really find some one That respects you more. It sounds like to me all he is thinking about is having sex, and that is not what you you want or need. Don't make the mistake that many young ladies your age make. WAIT, it is your choice, but make sure you make the right one. You must be physically and mentally ready, and right now I promise that you are neither.
2006-06-16 12:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by *FLIRTACIOUS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never compromise your moral just to please a man you have to look at yourself in the mirror every day not hime. If he does find someone else then he is not worth having and did not love you anyway. there is more to a relationship than sex. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something you are not ready too. Stay strong and don't give in to any future pressures or because you are afraid of losing someone. When you r ready u will know....
2006-06-16 11:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way... if he is willing to cheat on you because you won't have sex with him, then he will be willing to cheat on you for some other stupid reason. You are not ready, you know you are not ready... thats great you have a great thing going for you. Tell him no and if he can't handle your decision find someone who will respect it. You would regret having sex with him so he doesnt cheat...
2006-06-16 11:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect you when you say that your not ready to have sex then I would just dump him.. Sadly most guys hook up with younger girls just so they can be their first, whatever you do don't let him pressure you to do it, even if you are scared he's going to cheat, you'll regret it the rest of your life!
2006-06-16 11:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, then don't do it. When you're ready it can be a beautiful and very fullfilling experience. When you're not- it can be just the opposite.
No one can promise he won't cheat. But it's worth taking the chance on it by waiting. You may very well decide he isn't the one for you anyways. When you're ready, and you've found the right one- you'll know.
2006-06-16 11:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by niteowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's pressuring you.. dump him..He'll probebly leave sooner or later anyway if that is all he's interested in. If he really cares, he would not want you to do anything you are not ready for. Wait until you are married for sex..it's a huge responsibility you are playing russian roulette with...
2006-06-16 14:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by margol570 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it you are your own person and he shouldnt even ask you to do this stuff if u already said your not ready.....no matter what dont let him talk u into it even if hes gonna live u cause that just means hes not woth it anywayz if he cant except ur answer dump him before he dumps you because your doin the right thing....
2006-06-16 11:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Shameka E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. It's good that he's not pressuring you. And if he does find someone else, sad to say, he didn't really care enough about you and while it may not seem like it, you're better off without him.
2006-06-16 11:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it just because someone else says to. THink for yourself and value yourself. Sounds like you are pretty smart because you are questioning whether you should do it...now stand your ground. If he truly cares about you, he won't pressure you to do anything.
2006-06-16 11:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lynell S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋