How can you tell if a guy is just flirting with you or he is seriously interested in you?I have got this real close guy friend...he is kinda introvert and all...he hasnt got that many friends...but he is really close to me...has casually propsed to me a lot of times,definitely about 20 times(i say casually coz wenever i have tried to decline his offer...he jovially said...are u nuts...i have got i standard...i can't possibly date u).I like him a lot...and truly speakin am kind of dependant om him for emotional support and al...but wat irks me most is that wenever i go out he expects me to pay for his food and stuff...can't really understand wats on his mind...any help????
2006-06-16 11:00:03 · 19 answers · asked by sweet soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dear
I was realy shocked when read the last 2 lines-he expect u to pay !What does he mean?
May be he loves u very much,but perhaps the meaning of love is different for him.He might thinks that u r his property.If you establish a long relationship with him,then chances are ,u might be treated as slave.It is not a true love.
As u say that u r emotionally dependent on him,then i will not advice u to forget him or leave him,but in my opinion u should talk to him freely.Don't hesitate to express ur feelings.If u do any ignorance this time,then it could become ignorance of ur whole life.
Advice is ,talk to him freely,especially after a watching a true romantic movie with him
Yours
Sandeep
2006-06-16 19:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by sandeep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It very hard because it all depends on the guy. Here is one if you think that the guy is being serious with you then maybe he is but if he seems to you that he is flirting then maybe he is. Or you could just ask the guy so you can know. I think that he depends on you to do things for him and if you have feelings for each other then maybe you should give it a shot if it seems like it is not working out then you can break it off. It seems like he wants to be more then friends he wants to take the relationship between you up another level. It nevers hurts to give things a shot.
2006-06-30 10:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm bit of a trickey one!!! Well you seem to like him - I think its the fact that you end up paying for stuff thats putting the doubt in your mind!
Next time he casually proposes - throw it back at him - kinda say "what are you crazy??? I cant be with a guy that wouldnt even buy me dinner!" - gauge his reaction - then if you can, mention that it kinda bothers you that you're expected to pay for stuff and you cant really afford to be doing it all the time, if he reacts positively to what you say - maybe give things a go
2006-06-29 23:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon he's besotted with you, and asking you out is probably genuine.
If he never pays though, he might not have any cash, or is he looking for someone to depend on.
I reckon the only solution is to find out more about why he has no money, and if you like him as a Friend or date.
Time to talk.
2006-06-16 11:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by jimbo_thedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a website for you I dont know if youve heard of it but you can take a quiz to find out or go to the flirting section to tell if hes interested or not!
www.myjellybean.com
2006-06-30 03:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by xThousandxTearsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask him straight. Explain to him the way you feel. He obviously likes you on some level and it does soujnd more serious than just friends.
If you really like him, suggest dating for real.
As in, where he pays and treats you!
2006-06-16 11:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date other guys!!! See what his reaction is. If you ask him straight out, you might lose him as a friend. So go out with other guys to watch if he really cares for you or not.
2006-06-24 02:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out tell him wats up with him.if he really likes you or if his just playing around.tell him dat if u and him become more than friends he better start paying.and wen u leave let him pay
2006-06-29 03:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by stef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. The way you feel. Let him know that you are getting messages from him but you aren't sure that they are true or even if they are actually messages at all.
~VOLLEYBALL#13
2006-06-30 10:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by VOLLEYBALL#13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm- well that sounds like he likes you alot - but looks like a scab, trying to get you to pay for everything - but he could be punishing you for hurting him emotionally - i.e. not dating him.. A guy would love it if a woman would talk "Straight" to them - i.e. I like you - do you like me? sort of thing.
2006-06-20 05:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋