How would you feel if you grandma moved in with you and started controlling your house what do u do ? confused

Question

i am really mad about it

Answer 1

I'd be extremely mad. Then I'd try sending her to a home.

Answer 2

That's a very difficult situation -- and one that crops up all too often. What happens, of course, is when your grandmother moves in with your parents, one of them is, once again, her little girl, or her little boy, and it's just natural for her to start looking after them, their house, their lives, etc. It's a very hard habit to break. Your parents are probably pretty tired of it too, but unfortunately the situation won't get better all by itself. If possible, you should sit down with grannie, tell her you love her, but that you each have to live your lives your own way. And if she can't abide by that, then you'll have to think about making alternate arrangements.
Often, what happens is one grandparent dies, and one of the children takes in the survivor, but they are dealing with an older person at a very confused time of their lives -- they've just lost someone who has been their touchstone for a long, long, time. It isn't easy. That doesn't mean everyone else has to suffer, but it does call for a certain degree of understanding and a willingness to talk about the problem calmly and rationally. Even if you're really mad, you won't get anywhere in a discussion of this sort by sounding off. If it helps, write down the points that you need to make before you begin the discussion.
Good luck to you all.

Answer 3

She has been a mother for longer than you've been alive and a grandmother as well. She's controlling your environment because she obviously has the urge to nurture, and is taking it too far. I would sit her down and calmly explain how out of control that makes you feel. Tell her that you appreciate her wanting to take care of you (because she loves you), and then explain that being taken care of the way she's been doing it lately takes away your sense of independence. Maybe she doesn't see what she's doing as taking control of your environment. Be gentle and considerate, but be persistant too. You do have a right to control your space.

Answer 4

do not be mad... she is old and thinks that knows the best. respect her and remember that one day you will be a grandma and she will not be with you forever...
let her to think that she is controlling if that makes her happy but you do your own thing...
find a smart way to deal with it...there is not point talking as they will not listen at that age

Answer 5

There is no word for how upset I would be. See I have one of those grandmas and she's not just controlling, she's mean, mean, mean, and pretty nuts. I had to shut off all contact from her including blocking her from e-mailing me just because she's too much drama to handle. It sucks. I feel for ya.

Answer 6

talk to your parents and tell them that you dont like your grandma trying to control you and your house but mostly try to avoid your grandma and like if your parents allow you to have a boyfriend or friends over invite them all over and like make out with your boyfriend in front of her just to piss her off and show her she cant control your life

Answer 7

oo girl i jus went thru that :) gosh it feels so good to know someone else's gramma acts the same way

wat i did was totally ignore her, id pretend shes my number one enemy, id never listen to waht she said, and whenever she cleaned the house id make it terribly dirty again, and then on top of all that id argue with her if i didnt like what she said to me

but then after she left i realized "hey shes right" and i realized wat i did really wasn't worth it because my gramma was jus trying to teach me a life lesson, soemtimes the lesson is a little scathing but its always for the best :) she just wants to see you grow into a good person thats all, no need to be mad at her (ok thats impossible, maybe just a teeny bit)

best wishes :p

Answer 8

my grama does that now that she came over here but well i just dont let her... just ignore her or somethin wait a while before telling her off cuz remember shes old n may have a stroke or somethin just make the best of it and spend less time at home...

Answer 9

I assume you are an adult -- sit grandma down over her favorite food and gently explain the new rules....

Answer 10

Tell her that it is your house and she must respect it. If not, she needs to go somewhere else so she could control somebody else.