my fiance got married to this woman whom is 4 years older than him ok he has 2 kids with her and she was very abusive to him,he has custody of the kids he said he never loved her,i said why did you marry the b---- for and he said because he was in the navy and he was really lonily,in fact they were both lonily., now he tells me he has never loved anyone as much as he loves me ,he has not been with this woman for almost 11 years what are the chances of them getting back together,the kids donnot want their parents to get back together,infact they love me more than their own mother...
2006-06-16 10:23:39 · 24 answers · asked by JEN-JEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only thing I'd worry about if I were you is: Why would a guy marry someone he didn't love?
2006-06-16 10:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by norcalirish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the information you provided sounds like you have a good man. Don't worry about they getting back together unless you find out they start seeing each other. My cousin was in the Navy and married someone for the same reason. They didn't stay married long. Sounds like a reasonable story to me.
2006-06-16 10:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the chances are slim. Yes, they will forever be bonded because of their children, but I do not think that you need to worry about them getting back together. I am in a similar situation, and I know that my b/f will never go back to his ex. However, you never know what might happen. No one does, so to say that there is no chance would be foolish. I think that you need to embrace the love that he is and has given you, and 'forget' about the other woman. You need to think about the love that you two share. If you are really concerned about this, I think that you should have a private heart to heart with your partner.
2006-06-16 10:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you can't get over the fact that he was married before and had two kids with this women, I am sorry girl, but you are insecure, it is best you find a virgin or at least someone who is never been married before or have any kids. the truth is she will always be part of his life because of the kids, you have to accept it, if you can't handle it or it bothers you so much, you should leave him. by the way, you should not try to make her kids dislike their mother, it is not a right thing to do.
2006-06-16 10:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone has kids by that person its always going to be some feelings there so i don't know if they will ever get back together again or not but i do know if someone truly loves you no matter what they only have eyes for you i wish you well
2006-06-16 10:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 18 yrs, have two children and married for all too many wrong reasons. My children love their new stepmom and I could not be happier. Ever heard the term "been there, done that!" If there was nothing there for over 11 years, it will not exist today, tomorrow or ever again.
2006-06-16 10:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take that as a good thing cause sometimes kids from another mother can be cruel. To me there is noway in hell(excuse my language) that he would ever go back. So, don't worry too much about it. Be satisfied that he is with you. I'm in the same situation with my boyfriend's baby's mama.
2006-06-16 10:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I dont see why this would be a problem or an issue.. It sounds like his last marriage is definatlt over and he has no intention of going back unless you are not telling the entire story or are sugar coating something..
Good Luck and just enjoy your relationship..
2006-06-16 10:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime people in the military get married for the extra money so maybe he never did love her but it sounds like he really does love you, dont question his feeling and does he know you asked this here cause it could start probelms with you guys if he finds out later that you were questioning his feelings
2006-06-16 10:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by melykiskv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have much to worry about 11 years is along time to be apart. Just trust your feelings and go with that.
2006-06-16 10:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by kia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋