Relationship question!?

Question

I feel that certain people do not understand what relationships mean.

They just want to pass the judgement and if the other person does not agree, they feel that other party is wrong and should just accept the fact.

I feel communication is the most important thing between two people who are involved. If there is no communication or there a gap in communication then there is nothing.
What do you think?

Answer 1

Yes, communication is key. Unfortunately, the desire to communicate is not enough. To communicate you must speak the same language, I mean in terms of the meaning behind the message. Along with communication there needs to be "compatability". Otherwise issues of trustworthyness come into play which prevents communication and diminishes the existing communication.
Motive is also a factor, and I think this pertains to what you are describing. If someone is motivated to getting their own way they may act like they want to communicate when in fact they are looking for reasons to exploit your sincere attempt to communicate and judge you to make you feel like you need to conform to their way of thinking. In turn they get what they want from you and you are stuck feeling anxious. It's called keeping you in the FOG = Fear+Obligation+guilt. It's a controlling mechenism used by covert aggressive people and you can only suspect that you are being exploited but cannot prove their intentions. It is a terrible situation to find yourself in if you ever do, because you keep trying to communicate and resolve and the other person keeps bombarding you with twisting your communication, you call it a "gap". I call it a power struggle. You want fairness and the other person wants to "win", unfairly if necessary. Get out of it if you can, because you are right, there is nothing, except a losing battle.

Answer 2

I personally agree with Julie and Hector the collector. Communication is one of the main keys to a successful relationship, however if one feels that the other may not be 100 % honest then things change. I don't think that many ppl are trying to pass judgement...maybe moreso that they want the other person to understand where they are coming from. Also, it depends on how u can communicate or the time u have to do so. If one person is always busy then that possesses a problem, another thing may be if one person can not be located or contacted. If there is not adequete means to communicate, talk & express your concerns then how is the other person supposed to know how you truely feel? It is give and take, and not really fair if one feels they can call whenever THEY choose but the other person can not call when they have a concern, issue or just want to hear your voice. Looks like you may have to evaluate the ENTIRE situation & compromise on an end result.
Good luck to ya!

Answer 3

Personally, I feel that communication is very important when in a relationship. However, if there is no communication it does not necessarily mean that there is nothing. I think that you need to find a way to communicate with your partner. Make some bridges. Find a way to communicate. It may be tough, but you will feel better about it when you have bridged the gap. Now it does take 2 to tango, so ask questions that will provoke conversation. My b/f and I had and issue like this, and I asked a lot of questions. Now he openly shares thing without me having to ask. Maybe all you need is a bridge. Good luck1

Answer 4

Communication is basic to all problem solution. To this you have to add the rest of the formula: 2)Respect for each other 3)Listen while the other one communicates and expect the same 4) Find the "middle of the road" and get there; sometimes you have to go a little further, temporarily. Expect the same. Remember: ground yielded, ground lost. 5) The catch-all is use common sense and make sure your "other" will abide by same rules. Otherwise, it is a lopsided relationship that over time becomes slavery with love. It is your call.

Answer 5

You are ABSOLUTELY right. Communication is the key to everything. Now here is your GOLD power ring and your part of the crime fighter map. Do your best.... The problem is that YEAH knowing is half the battle, and even though you know this priceless bit of info. you like everyone else will stray from it time and again. The best thing is to know that people, ALL people are stubborn at times. Usually the guy!!! But in the end a good person knows the right thing to do and will prevail, whether they like it or not. You must always talk about everything, maybe even two or three times, when talking to a man. Just so it is clear...Good Luck

DvL

Answer 6

Sure communication is the key. However, folks dont always agree + in the heat of an argument, it's too late to try and discuss anything. So actually the key is to discuss BEFORE a minor annoyance becomes a GIGANTIC misunderstanding!
Sounds great in theory. But alas, it's difficult to carry it off on a daily basis.

Answer 7

I agree that communication is the key to a successful relationship. However, it must be honest and good communication, not just any communication.

Answer 8

I agree that communication is very important, but there are other things i feel are just as important, if you have nothing in common- there is nothing to talk about- there is still no communication. you have to have some common interests- not all common interests, but a few so you have something to talk about. and a sense of humor is good to.

Answer 9

I agree, communication is the most important part of any relationship but even if there's a problem, the parties concerned should try and fix the problem. relationships aren't about you, its about what you do for the other.

Answer 10

I agree. If there is no communication how will know anything about each other or express your feelings for one another. It's like ur a couple but ur both living a double life.