what should i have do when someone gives me a gift but i dont have one for them?

Question

me and my friends decided to give out end of the school year presents to each other. however, one of my mutual friends decided to give out gifts to everyone too, and i was caught off guard. i hadnt bought her one. since it was the last day of school, i really couldnt give anything to her... so instead i thanked her gracefully and said that i hadnt been able to buy gifts for ANYONE... BUT one of my close friends had shown my mutual friend the gift i had given her, so she totally knew i was lying! and she was talking about me behind my back to everyone else. like how i had lied and that she thought we were good friends but apparently not. what should i do/should have done?

Answer 1

If the mutual friend was not included the group of friends that you agreed to give presents to, i would not worry about it. You did the right thing by thanking her gracefully. Probably shouldn't have lied. If you feel bad I would talk to her and apologize for lying but let her know that you were involved with this agreement and that's all you were prepared for. Same thing happened to my daughter last year at graduation. It will wash over.

Answer 2

a gift is not the defining gesture in a friendship. if giving a gift meant you expected one in return that would defeat the point. A gift doesn't suggest an obligation.

Apologize for lying to her and explain your true feelings. If you guys are really "good friends" she will understand and it will be water under the bridge.

Answer 3

You shouldnt have lied, but it's understandable. Just talk to your friend and explain what really happened. If shes really your friend, sh´ll understand. After all, you didnt have to have a gift ready for at that moment.

Answer 4

tell her u lied and are sorry. tell her ull get her something during the summer