how do i convince my fiancee that he really DOES know how to use the washer, dryer, dishwasher, vaccumn cleaner, and mop?
He swears if he uses it, he will break it. He DID break the vaccumn cleaner....twice. Is he doing it on purpose, or just that stupid? LOL
2006-06-16 09:45:50 · 26 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont know mike...how do you say EXSCUSES?
2006-06-16 10:00:59 · update #1
Some men are jst that stupid. their mothers sheltered them too much. You may have to show him how to use them correctly.
2006-06-16 09:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by terrbeary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use baby steps. Don't throw the mop and bucket in his hands and run off. Do these things together. Start him with a small part of the whole task and gradually give him more to do until he can initiate the process himself. It sounds like maybe he's just overwhelmed and is giving up. For example, laundry can be intimidating if a person has never done it before -- what temperature, how to sort, bleach or not, etc. You do the laundry but have him do something simple like adding the detergent and then next time just have him turn the dials and push the buttons. Eventually he'll build up confidence to try it on his own.
2006-06-16 16:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rockwell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men do and/or say silly things just to make you smile :) Men know pretty darn well how to do a lot of household stuff, and not just fixing that pesky flickering lightboulb in the basement. Sometimes they can say stuff like "I don't know" or "I don't want to break it" just to get your attention and see whether or not you really need him in doing this or that.
Even though he says doesn't want to do something or wants to do it later, you can just tell him how happy it'll make you if he'll do that for you. When he'll accomplish a task, come over to him, kiss him and tell him that he did a wonderful job and you couldn't have done it without him. Smile and say thank you :) It'll give him another reason to do something like that again (without you even telling him next time), because the reward was sweet and wonderful, and plus to that he got a compliment for the job well done, and that this was very important to you and he's trully needed even in the "silly" everyday household "chores" :)
2006-06-16 17:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is he a big brut kinda guy cause if so then maybe he really is that clumsy or doesnt' know his own strength and is applying too much. or being to forceful. but then again if he is a sort of "womens' place is in the kitchen" kinda guy then yeah he's doing it on purpose just not telling you if i were you i'd let him live in his own filth and that should force him to pick up a sponge and live with it. tell him if you didnt' have me around then what the hell would you do? make him think about how nasty he'll be if he doesn't help you out every now and then,
2006-06-16 16:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want someone to do your laundry (and his) for you, hire someone. Division of household chores should never ever get in the way of a perfectly good relationship. If you want him, don't berate him for avoiding laundry. Discuss possible ways to solve the challenge, like putting extra $$ in the household account to cover laundry/maid service. It really doesn't cost very much, and it will take your mind off the clothes hamper and put it back where it belongs -- enjoying your fiancee.
2006-06-16 17:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Aa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will always play dumb if they dont want to do things. Dont do the laundry for a little while. When he runs out of clean underwear he will learn how to use the washer/dryer.
2006-06-16 16:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just making excuses not to do housework. Pay attention to this, because getting married isn't going to change this behavior. If you can't be happy doing all the housework for the rest of your life, then this is a problem you need to settle before you get married.
2006-06-16 16:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on purpose... as long as you LET him not help with the chores, the longer you'll be doing it alone. tell him it really bothers you that he doesn't help out. it's not stupid. you've got to get into a better routine with him before you get married or else you'll end up being molly maid for the rest of your life!!
tell him you'll buy new mops, vaccums, whatever he breaks, you'll buy it again if he just helps out with the chores. that way he has no excuse.
2006-06-16 16:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by hg mccain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes doing it on purpose to be honest! alot men having big issues with tidying & cleaning ! they just dont think it is an neccesity! but it is! my fella uses the excuse that he is allergic to washing up liquid and any other household cleansing products! he is a complete joke.... but i wouldnt half mind if he just said he was too tierd, after all he does work 15 hrs most days ! they are all the bloody same !
2006-06-16 16:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew been there, done that.
I am so bored with men easing their way out of work by saying they dont know how to. Of course they know how.
Hey; wash and do your things. Let him do his own. You are not his mother are you???
Here's what I compromised with my guy: I do the laundry exept ironing his shirts, and he pays for a cleaning person every 14 days. We are both responsible for keeping a tidy house
2006-06-16 16:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...breaking of household appliances (vacuums especially) sounds deliberate.
If you really want his help, don't wash his laundry for a while. It'll make him realize your worth, and that you're not kidding around when it comes to helping out. He can and will help out.
Worst case scenario, you show him the door, and tell him not to let it hit him in the a$$ as he leaves.
2006-06-16 16:48:21 · answer #11 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋