my fiance hates taking out the garbage. he'll let it pile up for like 3 days in a row, he lets the big garbage can outside fill up, and forgets to take it to the road the day the garbage truck passes. then he's like why can't u take it out sometimes. we got into a huge argument over TRASH the other day. he's really stressed from his job, have 2 kids together, and he's the only one working, so i know it's a lot, but is that an excuse to fight about not taking out the garbage? he did the same thing today before he left for work....i asked if he was going to take it out, and he just left the house. am i being inconsiderate cuz i don't help with the trash, or should he just stop whinning about it and do it? i don't know why he's like this. i mean it's just trash for goodness sake.
2006-06-16 09:38:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My fiance is like that too. I'll go as far as putting the full trash bag or overflowing can in front of the front door so he'll take it out and he just moves it and leaves it there. So, I didn't cook for him for a week and told him I couldn't because I couldn't throw stuff away. He got sick of eating grilled cheese and peanut butter and jelly and now he takes out the trash without me asking. Good luck.
2006-06-16 09:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by dewitthm 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The reason men don t like to take out the trash is the exact same reason women don t like it and constantly attempt to assign it to the man as though god himself made a declaration that all trash shall be handled only by men.
It is nothing but a simple double standard.
In a home where domestic duties are assigned to the woman and working is assigned to the man. The man expects to leave the house and work for his side of the partnership. He expects all things at home to be handled by his partner. So when he gets home, he feels like his duties are done. It would be like getting nagged to do the cooking and cleaning when your on holiday. That is time when your "off the hook" for such tasks, and you don t want to be harassed about it.
That feeling is the loaded trap that caused the man to have a reaction when asked or told (without any kindness or consideration) that he is on the line for domestic tasks in addition to bringing in the household income.
The real question is why don t homemakers (either sex really, just whichever one takes that role) randomly decide that some domestic tasks are the bread-maker s responsibility. Nothing wrong with mixing up the tasks and duties, but those should be treated as exceptions that need to be discussed and MUTUALLY agreed upon.
There are a LOT of single mothers in the USA. How do their trash get taken out I have to wonder?
2015-10-13 09:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Duey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..I have been there too. My husband has a trash deficit. He hates taking it out..and lets the bag get REALLY full before he does it. He also sometimes forgets to take it to the street, and when he brings the cans back..he puts them to close to the deck..and then there are flies around where people commune and I HATE it!
But..it also sounds like he is stressed out. Is this his only chore? If it is..then I think it is reasonable for him to take responsibility for it. I would suggest speaking with him about what happened around household chores when he was growing up. Did mom just do everything? Maybe so..and maybe he expects that. I personally thing he must learn to be more flexible. In today's society..men are required to do a bit more around the home than they once did.
2006-06-16 09:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love taking out the trash I do it when ever it gets near full but first I walk through the house checking all the smaller garbage cans and cleaning cat litter first so I can make sure I got absolutly everything out. Yay trash!!!
2006-06-16 09:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bluris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It beats the alternative that's having to burn your very own trash. My grandma lived interior the mountains and so did my ex huz grandparents and that they did no longer have trash %. up. they could desire to burn their trash in massive barrels interior the decrease back backyard. What a soreness it particularly is. So, yeah I hate trash day yet Iwould particularly drag it to the curbthan could desire to sniff it burn and make particular it would not capture the woods on hearth LOL
2016-12-08 09:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer will be YES
My hubby won’t take the trash out unless I tell him…. And I tell him every day, for the past 5 yrs and the more to come
2006-06-16 09:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by sara76c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's just trash for goodness sake", if that's the case, why you bothered with it? it seems you have a problem to take out the trash yourself, you stay at home, you have more time, why don't you take out the trash? what's the big deal? your man don't like to do it, how about you? if you don't like to do it too. then you should understand why he doesn't like to do it, if you have no problem with it, just take out the trash yourself.
2006-06-16 09:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Discovery 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is it automatically a job for men?
If you knew it needed done and was piling up why did you not take care of it?
If this is just a symptom of a greater problem then I guess I can see your point.
2006-06-16 09:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by DannyK 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
baby girl, no, i like taking out the trash; i like a clean house. you two have a bigger problem then trash. either sit down and have a good talk. or go see marriage counselor.
2006-06-16 09:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's just trash, then you take it out. Nobody likes taking out the trash.
2006-06-16 09:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Julie B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋