my boyfriend cheated on me 1 year ago...?

Question

my boyfriend cheated on me 1 year ago and up to now still on my mind what he did tome. i want to forget all those things,but it's still there,the pain...

Answer 1

it's hard, because you can forgive him, but forgetting is the difficult part. I'm going through it too, my b/f cheated 3 months ago.. and i forgave him but there are certain things that make me not trust him.. i swore i wouldn't bring it up anymore.. it's only fair. everytime i do he gets really mad. i think that you have to just decide that if you can't trust him, you have to just move on. good luck. i'm deciding this myself.

Answer 2

My boyfriend cheated on my two years ago and trust me honey, it never, EVER goes away. It will always be there fresh as ever in your mind, especially if he lied about it when you found out. It hurts. Not like a stubbed toe hurt, but a pain so far into your gut that it makes you weak and literally feel sick. It hurts like someone took your heart and threw it to the curb and laughed as it was run over. Cheating hurts. Lies hurt. Love hurts. It is in your best interests to try to havea discussion with him, find out why, who when, how many lies, times, etc. If he isn't honest with you...well, I can't even say that. My boyfriend wasn't honest, and I stayed. I'm stupid though. Maybe you are smarter than me. I love him, and I can't keep away. It's like a moth to the flame, I keep getting drawn back in. I love him to pieces, and I hope that things will get better. They are better for now, he says he is sorry, blah blah blah, and I feel that he does mean it, it is just up in the air that he will do it again. You can be sorry for something, but that doesn't mean you wont mess up again.

Good luck. I hope everything works out for you one way or another.

Answer 3

How you stayed in this relationship I'll never know. When someone betrays you, you lose the trust you once had for that person. It's hard to move on without trust being reestablished. I wouldn't have taken him back if I were you, but now that you have, you have to ask yourself if it's worth sticking around to get your heart smashed into pieces or if you'd just rather move on and find someone who will be faithful. In college, my boyfriend of 4 years who I loved dearly cheated on me with an ugly girl from his dorm. One minute he said he loved me, the next he said he loved her. It was horrible, but I tried to go on without him. Then she dumped him for her ex, and he came back to me. I stupidly took him back. A year after that, he cheated on me with this skeezy girl that lived in his apartment complex. I found out when I called and she answered his phone. I stayed calm and told him that he was a jerk and to never call me again. I didn't let him see me cry. First time, shame on him. Second time, shame on you. Think about it, because it would be horrible to endure that hurt a second time, wouldn't it? I know because I went through that. I'm much happier now, years and years later, with a wonderful man who'd never be unfaithful to me. I hope you figure out what you want and find someone who will give you there absolute all. Good luck.

Answer 4

It will probably never go away. If you are going to heal it is probably better if you two seperate. I know you might not want to hear this but if you haven't gotten over this a year after the incident and you are still seeing him then you probably need to seperate.

Besides, can the pain and doubt really be any worse than it is now?

Answer 5

i understand totally, me and my bf broke up once and that weekend he got with a good friend of mine, i guess its not cheating but we're together now so i look at it as cheating.. it has affected me to the point where im still upset about it and it makes me think twice about where he is and what hes doing.. this happened almost a year ago.. i guess feeling this way is normal, its hard to imagine the person your with being with someone else, cus that persons ur whole world.. i understand

Answer 6

You will never forget it ever. You are willing to still be with him I see so, you have to be willing to forgive him for that. I am not saying to forget, but you do honestly have to forgive. If you don't trust him, there is no sense of staying with him then. Move on if you can't let go of the past.

Answer 7

So why are you still with him? Do you enjoy pain? Obviously not because it's too much for you to bear. You still feel deep within your heart that he may do it again and your'e also still in denial because you just can't come to grips with the fact that he cheated on you and you feel betrayed. So my advice to you is to let him go so u can spare yourself this pain and begin to heal.

Answer 8

If you are still together, you'll probably never forget. If you're no longer together, I would suggest getting some professional counseling. It's hard enough to trust people, but when someone abuses that trust it's nearly impossible to forgive them. You'll never forget, but at least you'll be able to move beyond it.

Answer 9

OMG! Come on, women! One cheating - it's not a big deal. Does he still love you, is he still with you? Men understand sex different than the women do, it's in their nature to have sex with more than one woman. Women could only have sex if they love the guy (at least most of them) but the man could love you to death and still sleeping with 10 other women. It's normal, it's in their nature.

Answer 10

I think you should just leave your boyfriend, no matter what happens you're always going to have this on him. You'll never trust him and eventually this will catch up to you, so I say just leave him now.