Okay my friend and I were friends since we were in the 9th, and while we were in the 9th she got this disease and the rest of our friends turned their backs on her, well everyone but me. Plus on top of that the boy she gave it to told everybody about it and it made high school very hard for her. She use to coming to school. So by the time we made it to the 11th she started being gay, but I was still her friend b/c u are not suppose to judge others for the things they do. Then our 12th year the rumors started back up and this boy decided that he would just start mess between us and thats just what he did. He told her that I started the rumors in which I didn't and that's how our friendship ended. So then there was my first love who I really loved and cared about seriously and very deeply and she knew that, so in revenge she decided to lie to him and she told him that I was cheating on him since day one, so he believed her and now its over between us but I luv & miss him.
2006-06-16 09:30:06 · 4 answers · asked by Te-Te 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.
I think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html
I am so sorry for your losses.
I carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.
I still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
2006-06-16 10:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he believed that girl and not you, and broke up with you, than he has no backbone, and no balls! Hes not man enough to here your side of the story. If hes gonna be an a s s like that, than why would you still love him? I would be like than f * k you!! Let him go believe whoever he wants to believe, its his loss and not yours. Move on and dont think about anything. High School is temporarily, your not gonna see most of your classmates after graduation, so who cares. And if your friend believed that guy, than she wasnt really a good friend. So dont think about it too much, everything will be fine.
2006-06-16 09:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he believed her you don't need him.
You seem pretty mature in staying by your friend.
Ride it out till highschool is over and you will find that most of those head games are over too!
Best wishes.
2006-06-16 09:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, what was the question again?
2006-06-16 09:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋